How *Do* You Do It?

How Do You Do It? #oilfield #wivesIf I had a dollar for every time someone asked me ‘how do you do it?’, I’d be a very rich woman, retired in Fiji with a cabana boy serving me endless drinks while my husband relaxed and my children splashed in the waves…….not that I’ve ever planned anything like that out….I’m just sayin’.

What I’m really saying is someone shakes there head and says, I don’t know how you do it, or how do you do it?, or there’s always my favorite, you are amazing because you do it all, all by yourself. 

Let’s get one thing straight. All of us oilfield wives are an amazing breed. It takes a LOT to deal with our husbands being gone so much of the time, raising kids what feels like single handedly, and keeping our stuff straight.

Is it the life we would choose to live all over again? Probably not.

How do we do it? Do you ever stop to ask yourself that question? Ha! Who am I kidding, of course you don’t because you don’t have time! Or at least I don’t.

Why do we do it? We do it because we have to do it, and it just happens that most of the time, we have to do it alone. Our husbands are working, and it’s our job to make sure that we spend the money properly, I mean, keep the house running properly.

It’s exhausting, and often thankless. We’re tired, and our needs are often set aside (WAY aside) so we can accomodate the needs of everyone around us.

I think oilfield wives should be in line for Sainthood. Or Sisterhood.

Right now, I want to tell you something:

You are doing an amazing job. Even when you think you aren’t. Even when you feel like you are dropping balls you didn’t know existed. Even when you feed your kids sandwiches for dinner *again*, and the laundry is piled sky high, and you haven’t shaved your legs in a week.

YOU are doing what needs to be done, and everyone is still alive, (at least we hope they are!) and that’s all that really matters.

Take a moment to appreciate yourself today, and to be thankful for the strong woman you are, because ninety-nine percent of women out there couldn’t hack it.

We are awesome.


  1. I LOVE THIS!!! Very well said and AMEN SISTA!!!

  2. I absolutely
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