Who Is That Woman in the Mirror?

Who Is That Woman in the Mirror? Finding time for YOU! @oilfieldwives realoilfieldwives.com

I was talking to my mom a while back about the stresses of taking care of a home, a newborn, and a toddler and she said to me, “Make sure you take some time for yourself.”

Time for myself? What the hell is that? I seem to have a vague notion of it, but I can’t remember the last time I was able to do something for myself.

When our daughter was born in 2009, I had just graduated from college and only worked part-time. It was easy to get a workout in or read a good book while she napped. As she got older and I took on a full-time job, “mommy time” went by the wayside. Even though I stay at home now, with the birth of our second child and being a full-time masters student, I feel like I have even less time for myself. Let’s be honest, even time in the bathroom is interrupted by little hands under the door or calls of “Mommy! What are you doing?”

I have come to realize, however, that the situation isn’t as dire as it may seem. It’s all about learning to take 10 minutes here, 20 minutes there, and being thankful to even have that time.

On Hubby’s days off, the only thing I can think about doing are things as a family and spending time with my Roughneck, so personal time is more of an afterthought. When hubby is working, I am able to get in some alone time. One of my favorite ways is exercising on my recumbent bike. I can read a few chapters of a book or catch up on a favorite show during a thirty minute workout. (Thank the Lord for DVR, eh?) After the kiddos are in bed for the night, I get in a longer workout with Zumba for the Xbox 360 Kinect.

Not everyone sees exercise as a fun activity, so do what pleases you. Maybe you are crafty and like to scrapbook, knit, or sew. (I can’t glue popsicle sticks together most days so more power to you!) Have a friend with a teenager looking to make a few extra bucks babysitting? Take them up on the offer and plan a girls day or evening; Take an art class, have dinner, or get a manicure and pedicure. Sometimes, all you need is a conversation with another adult to help you recharge.

I refuse to fall into the rut of letting my children take over every aspect of my life. Do I live for my kids? Yes. Will I do everything that I can for them? You bet. Will I neglect my health and mental state for them? Not unless their lives depend on it, which I don’t see happening. I’m not sure I can stress enough how important it is for Oilfield Wives to take care of themselves. After all, if we burn ourselves out, who will be there to take care of everything else?

What do you do to get some time for yourself? What activities help you to recharge while living the oilfield life?

jaimie-gunJaimie is 25 years old, wife of almost five years to JR, and mother of two beautiful children: Ashley, 3 and Justin, 1 month. When not spending time with her family, and watching movies based on Jane Austen novels, she finds new ways to live a healthy and fulfilling life. Jaimie lives in Fayetteville, North Carolina. Follow Jaimie on Twitter!

About Jaimie

Jaimie is 26 years old, wife of five years to JR, and mother of two beautiful children: Ashley, 4 and Justin, 1. When not spending time with her family, and watching movies based on Jane Austen novels, she finds new ways to live a healthy and fulfilling life. Jaimie lives in Fayetteville, North Carolina. Follow Jaimie on Twitter or on her blog, Education of an Oilfield Wife!

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