I Miss Daddy!



When Hubby started in the oilfield last year, our daughter wasn’t really phased by his absence. I’m not sure if she just didn’t notice it or if she was just used to Daddy being gone whenever the Army dragged him away. That has all changed with the last couple of months. The last two times we have dropped Hubby off at the airport I hear, “Mommy, I miss Daddy. Can we go back and get him now?” (Ugh. Here come the waterworks.) Maybe it’s the two solid weeks of family time we get between hitches or maybe it’s because Ashley is getting older, but her attachment to Daddy has gotten a lot stronger and is making the first few days he is gone a bit difficult.

I have a feeling things are going to get worse before they get better, so I decided to find some activities for Ashley that will keep her looking forward to Daddy’s return and help her cope with his absence. Here are a few ideas I have found so far:

1) Start a countdown. Decorate a jar and fill it with 14 candy pieces. Every day that Daddy is gone, let your little one have a piece of candy. If you don’t want to use candy, try decorative rocks or gems that you can pick up in the craft section. You can also dedicate a calender just to tracking hitches.

2) Create a bear at Build-A-Bear Workshop with his voice inside. We did this back in 2009 when Hubby had to return to Iraq four days after Ashley was born. Some how “Daddy Bear” has lost all of his clothing but still works great. It’s still one of her favorite stuffed toys. There are also pillows and other items you can have Daddy’s picture put on.

3) Print out a map that shows your child’s and Daddy’s location. The majority of our families have to deal with Daddy working far away. Put a pin in important or fun places between the two points. For older kids, turn this into a geography/history lesson! If your OFM has been in several places, this could also be a fun way to keep track of all the places he has worked.

What do you do to help your child cope with Daddy’s absence? Tell me in the comments or send me a tweet @Ofwjaimie!

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About Jaimie

Jaimie is 26 years old, wife of five years to JR, and mother of two beautiful children: Ashley, 4 and Justin, 1. When not spending time with her family, and watching movies based on Jane Austen novels, she finds new ways to live a healthy and fulfilling life. Jaimie lives in Fayetteville, North Carolina. Follow Jaimie on Twitter or on her blog, Education of an Oilfield Wife!


  1. Here’s a few ideas we have done. I know nothing ever fully satisfies their need for daddy, but some things certainly help!
    1. Get a bowl and fill them with one Hershey’s Kiss for each day he will be gone. Each night have them eat one kiss after dinner and tell them it is a kiss from daddy. The visual aide of seeing the bowl getting emptier will definitely help them feel less anxious about the amount of time left in the hitch.
    2. Circle the day on the calendar daddy comes home. Have them cross off the day as it comes to an end. This has the same effect.

    3. There is a website for “daddy dolls.” They were originally made for children of the military, but it works for this too. You get to send in a picture of your husband, and they will make a doll out of it for your child to sleep with and take with them where ever they go.
    4. Record your husband reading one of your child’s favorite bedtime stories. Then, play the recording and let them read along with the book. It is just about as close to having him there reading as you can get!

    Hope this helps!

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