Holiday Blues NO MORE!


Hi all! First and foremost I want to wish our sweet, beautiful, insanely brilliant daughter a HAPPY HAPPY BIRTHDAY! Tomorrow on August 3rd, Riley turns three! Now, not to get all emotional on everyone, but this is a big deal! (Insert drum roll here….)  Not only is this Riley’s “Golden Birthday” but this birthday will go down in history as the first birthday that her hard working oilfield daddy will be home for her real birthday! I literally have tears of joy even writing this. I know we have all had to recognize (much less celebrate) holidays, birthdays, and special occasions without our husbands or significant others because of the oilfield, so I knew you would all be able to share the joy with me!

August is an exciting month for our family for much more than just Riley’s birthday. The evenings and mornings in Colorado start to cool down, my morning commute to work once again includes that of tailgating school buses and colors reveal fall is right around the corner. Fall to our family, does mean Pumpkin Spice Lattes, but it also means the beginning of those back to back months packed with fun filled holidays. Celebrating holidays was always a big deal in my family growing up, but it was not until just recently that I began sharing the fun and excitement in our own home.

In the four years I have been an oilfield wife, I think I can count on one hand the number of holidays and special occasions we have spent as a family. Holidays alone as an OFW are the worst, with our without children.  I went through a period, probably until Riley was about 18 months, that to bury the pain of not being a family on holidays, I would simply just not participate. I specifically remember one Halloween where I left a bowl of candy on the front step, and sadly ignored every child that rang the bell because they had apparently missed the bright orange sign to “please take one”. We did not dress up, we did not Trick-Or-Treat, Riley and I snuggled in bed and ignored the festivities. Riley was tiny then, so she went to bed early and quite honestly had no idea what she was missing, but in my heart and through my tears I knew what we were missing, and it was Daddy.

The lifestyle for oilfield families is not an easy one, but in time you learn to adjust and you become more comfortable in your own reality. My negative mindset and heart ache I previously associated with holidays alone was doing nothing positive for our situation, in fact looking back now I think it made the holidays even worse and the depression even deeper. One Christmas I had a “come to Jesus moment” and decided it was time to pull up my boot straps and get creative! Spending every holiday under the sun apart just meant we would reinvent holidays in our home (yes, we were on the hitch where his two weeks on fell on EVERY dang holiday)! Decorations went up a little earlier, Halloween costumes were wore a few times, Thanksgiving dinner was sometimes a pancake breakfast before saying our good byes, and most importantly Riley learned about the special “Oilfield Santa Claus” who visited special boys and girls early so that on Christmas Eve he could visit their daddies on the rig too and leave them something special.

One of the most important things I have learned as an OFW is that we are literally some of the strongest woman on the planet, and I am not alone. We live a life where our family is whole only half the year or less, and we still carry a smile even when being surrounded by those who have their family all together, not just during the holidays but every day. I would even be willing to go as far as saying we are boarder line super hero. The attitude, the heart, and the spirit of the OFW puts the love and joy not just in our pre-tend holidays or silly traditions, but in our homes and in the hearts of our oilfield men.

About rebecca

Becky and her family live in the beautiful town of Grand Junction, Colorado. She has been an OFW for almost three years, has a degree in Business Management, and works fulltime as a Digital Sales Manager for a local news station. She and her husband have one three year old daughter, Riley who is sweet, sassy, and even in heels and boas likes to pretend she is a dragon, that’s right ladies a dragon. In addition to work, Becky also volunteers on a fundraising committee for a local hospital, is a marketing chair member for a local not for profit, and helps pitch in at her daughters pre-school to raise funds. In her spare time (because she has SO MUCH of it) this OFW enjoys gardening, building projects on Shutterfly, cooking, golfing with her hubby, playing volleyball, and enjoying time on the lake with her family. Follow Becky on Pinterest and Instagram.

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