My terrible, horrible, no good, very bad week

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I try to maintain a positive outlook overall in life, not just about the Oilfield. I’m thankful to God for all of our blessings –  oil related and other.  I encourage my children on a daily basis to stop and look for all the blessings in our lives. I am truly thankful for my husband’s career and the opportunities that the we have received from being a part of the OF.  I realize we chose this life, so the sacrifices we have made have been voluntary and I stand firm that the pros outweigh the cons.  I usually go on and on about how wonderful the two and two schedule is. The income is good, the benes are good, etc etc.  I try not to complain even when we have a rough patch because I don’t want to sound like one of those celebrities that complain about how hard it is to be rich and famous.  Okay, so I’m not comparing myself to the rich and famous, I’m just saying no one wants to hear a person complain about something that they chose, and something that has benefited them in many ways.
With all that being said….
I need to complain. I need to vent to all you Oilfield wives that get it.   I just want to whine – –  and then I can get over it.  “Other” people don’t understand.  It’s not that I hate the OF, it’s not unbearable, I’m not miserable, we’re not going to run out and look for a new career….I just need some sympathy from other women who have been there.  I had a very (for lack of a better word) crappy week.  To begin with, my Hot Oil Man worked over, so instead of his regular two and two, he is working a 3 on/1 off.  And this was back to back with working a 4 on/2 off  last hitch. Needless to say he hasn’t been home much in quite a while.   He did the 4 and 2 on purpose because we wanted the extra money for new tires on both vehicles before winter.  It was his change-over so the 4 on was really just one extra week anyway. This 3 and 1, however, wasn’t entirely by choice.  He was asked to stay and we thought the extra money would be nice, plus it’s a good time of year to please the bosses, but it wasn’t really our idea.  So –  I guess my point is, we weren’t entirely thrilled about the 3 and 1 to begin with.  So on top of the usual stresses of having the husband gone, he’s been gone extra long. Twice in a row.  That makes everything  harder to deal with.  Now if that wasn’t enough to get me down, Sunday was my husband’s birthday and we would have liked to have him home.  This is his year to work Thanksgiving and Christmas so it would have been nice to have him here to at least get to celebrate his birthday.  So that was a kick while we were already down. He was scheduled to get home Monday so that wouldn’t have been so bad, only one day after his birthday….enter the storm.  I was hoping we wouldn’t get snow until after Thanksgiving.  I wasn’t quite ready yet.  But ready or not –  here it came.  Snow makes everything a little more difficult.  EVERYTHING takes longer.  You have to give yourself extra time – extra time to get bundled up and help everyone with zippers and gloves, extra time to warm the car, extra time to drive slow….my time is precious and storms really cut into it, which obviously doesn’t help my mood. Down here we just got snow (which was bad enough), but up at the north slope they had a phase 3 storm. My Hot Oil Man was stranded and couldn’t get back to camp for over 24 hours.  Plus, no flights in or out.  So instead of getting home at noon on Monday it will now be 1 am Wednesday.  Now we will only get 5 days together, not to mention his birthday cake will be day old.  I’m tired. I’m grumpy. I’m feeling sorry for my Hot Oil Man snowed in at work, for my kids missing their daddy….and for myself carrying an extra load.
And that’s that. Now I can move on.
Anyone else need to vent?  Let’s just get it all out……

About jenna

Jenna has been an oilfield wife for over 12 years. Her Hot Oil Man husband started working in the oilfield a few months before they were married. The oilfield has lead them all the way from Northern CO to Alaska, where they've lived in the Matanuska Valley for 4 years. The family consists of their two children; a strong-willed daughter age 10, and a goofy son age 7. And of course what family would be complete without a couple of dogs and rabbits thrown in the mix. Jenna is a stay at home mom who doesn't “stay at home” much, and enjoys gardening, baking, reading, watching movies, four wheeling, hiking, fishing, and LOVES shopping. Since moving to the last frontier they have also started home schooling, which is another adventure all it’s own.


  1. Sorry you are having a rough time!!! I hope things start getting better!

    I have had a week from hell. Think 6 people with stomach flu. Kids that can’t make it to the toilet and puke on dogs, who in turn stand up and shake it off. This was at the rig while we were visiting my husband, all stuffed into tight quarters together.

    Lots of dramatic things happening in our foster daughter’s case right now, too, and it makes me want to scream and shake people who just don’t get how to be a parent.

    And I’M TIRED. Just tired.

    • Wow, yours totally tops mine! See, nothing like venting to make things better. 😉

      I am sorry to hear about your week. I hope things get straightened out soon!

  2. lisa fender says:

    Jenna, I hope the venting made you feel better. Sometimes you just need to get it all out. Just remember your blessings like you teach the kids. This too shall pass and you will have special time with Les! you guys have endured worse than this in the past, and you will get through this! Love you all and I hope you have a wonderful Thanksgiving and Christmas!

  3. Jenna, I know how you feel! It seems that 2 on/2 off is just a myth with my OFM and his position. He’s coming home for only a week and then gone for 3 weeks over the holidays, after having been gone 3+ weeks for the last 2 hitches before this! What adds insult to injury is that they don’t actually have any schedule for paying him so we’ll see 5-8 days of these long hitches in pay, at a time. It makes me kinda nuts. Vent away… we may have made the choice for this, but it doesn’t mean the ever-changing-schedules aren’t still annoying!

    • Sorry to hear about your stressful schedule!!! Venting just makes me feel better – releases the steam, ya know? I don’t want to complain to my hubby because he doesn’t need to bear the weight of my problems on top of his, so instead I choose to complain to all you other oilfield wives that REALLY get it.

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