A Blended Family Holiday

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It’s no secret to anyone that a lot of marriages don’t last these days. I heard somewhere that 50% end in divorce, but who knows the actual number. The result is that there are second (and third) marriages that create what are called “blended” families. I come from one such family and I’m proud of it, mostly because we all manage to get along! Let’s face it, blended families don’t always blend so well.

Hubby is going to be on the rig for Thanksgiving so we decided to have a small shindig here at the house with my family (his family is down in Louisiana. Miss y’all!). Around my kitchen table sat my mother, father, and step-mother. No mean looks, no ill-will. Just my mom and step-mom picking on my dad and my dad just keeping his mouth shut. Smart man (well, minus one knock about my mom’s cake). I know that my family isn’t always the norm and that grudges and bad history can destroy the holidays.

My parents split when I was 9 or 10 (my memory is shot, y’all) and it wasn’t always pleasant. Both of my parents eventually remarried and I gained some great step-parents. My mom likes my step-mom so much that she used to send Christmas presents for her when we’d visit Dad. I’ve often asked my mom why our family isn’t rife with animosity as I’ve seen so many torn apart because of it. She usually just laughs and says that she’s too old for that (63 years young!) and that my parents decided early on that what happened in their marriage couldn’t stand in the way of how they parent their children.

Hubby also comes from a blended family and we are fortunate that his mom, dad, and step-mother also get along. The last time we were down in Louisiana, we celebrated Ashley’s 4th birthday. We were able to have one party where both sides of hubby’s family showed up in force. Ashley loves that she has so many grandparent’s, but it can get a little confusing when remembering to say Memaw, Nonnie, Mimi, Paw, Papa, and Papa Frank.  On my husband’s side, things get a little trickier with the addition of two sets of great-grandparents.

When I think about it, the oilfield, much like the military,  is like a blended family.  Before Hubby left the service we would have over soldiers and their families for Thanksgiving or Christmas if they couldn’t get back home. We aren’t military anymore, but we still invited our good friends- the Hall family- to share in our early Thanksgiving celebration. Family is what you make it, friends!

In my mind, blended families can be a blessing. Sometimes circumstances don’t allow for it and sometimes it takes a little work to get a long. Like I said earlier, I know that my family could be considered rare as far as blended families go, but it is my hope that the better side comes out more than the ugly one.

Do you have a blended family? How do you handle holidays? Comment below or send me a tweet

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About Jaimie

Jaimie is 26 years old, wife of five years to JR, and mother of two beautiful children: Ashley, 4 and Justin, 1. When not spending time with her family, and watching movies based on Jane Austen novels, she finds new ways to live a healthy and fulfilling life. Jaimie lives in Fayetteville, North Carolina. Follow Jaimie on Twitter or on her blog, Education of an Oilfield Wife!

Comments

  1. I have a very blended family!!

    My parents were never married, but split when I was young. Both remarried and divorced.

    Now, we are married and I have adopted my stepson, we are in the process of adopting our foster daughter, and we have another foster daughter going home to her mom right before Thanksgiving, and who knows what our family will look like by the end of the year. Hah!

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