The Importance Of Kindness This Holiday Season



Well, folks, I am back in Kentucky for the holidays, albeit much earlier than expected, but I managed to get out of North Dakota one day ahead of last week’s snow and cold. I’ve been spending the last few days settling back into the house and getting reacquainted with my neighbors. The first few days have been marked by the normal pleasantries one exchanges with their neighbors, questions about how the summer went and what North Dakota is like and how Jacob is doing. All the things one would expect when returning home after an extended time away.

However, last night I received a phone from one of my neighbors that really shook me up. She was terribly upset and needed to talk to someone. She told me that they were being forced to file for bankruptcy and that they were worried about what they were going to eat tomorrow, and that there was no way they were going to have a real Thanksgiving meal. The past 18 or so months have been pretty rough for them as they have been caring for their daughter and her baby who has had significant health problems since he was born 16 months ago. Despite her own trials this woman has been so kind to me over the years we’ve lived in our house. She’s always looking out for me and making sure the house is safe. She was quick to help me out in my garden and with our chickens when we had them and she was always bringing me little gifts or trinkets.

So, when she told me about their situation I knew I had to do something, but I wasn’t sure what. After a series of unfortunate events this summer (Oh, I could write a novel!) and big expenses looming on the horizon, things are pretty tight for us right now as well. Instead of just giving up and thinking I couldn’t do anything, I decided to see just what I could do to make sure our neighbors had Thanksgiving dinner. Maybe I could do it own my own, but it would be sparse. I wanted to do something better. So, I figured that it couldn’t hurt to ask and posted an inquiry on Facebook offering to pick up any Thanksgiving items people might be willing to donate. This was a huge leap for me because I don’t usually ask for anything, even when I need it. I am so happy I spoke up this time! The response was great and I am happy to tell you that we will be putting together a nice dinner for the neighbors that I will be taking to them Wednesday afternoon. I’m also working on getting them in touch with the groups and service providers that can help them out moving forward. I am so happy that my neighbors will have Thanksgiving and I am so proud of myself for speaking up and I am so proud of my little community for stepping up. What a wonderful thing to come home to!

The point of telling you this story is to remind you to be kind to one another this holiday season. Pay attention to those around you and help them if they need help. Need may not always be as obvious as you think and many people suffer in silence. If you don’t see a need, then maybe just practice a random act of kindness. Maybe when you’re in the drive through at the coffee shop you could pay for the guy behind you. You never know how one little act of kindness can brighten someone’s whole day. If you’re not sure you can do anything then get creative and make it happen anyway. Above all remember what Thanksgiving is about and practice maintaining an attitude of gratitude. The whole world looks so much brighter when you recognize your blessings and show your gratitude for them.

Happy Holidays, oilfield families! I hope you have a great holiday season resplendent with bright, beautiful blessings!

About chelsea

Chelsea is mama to 4 year old Will and partner to her oilfield man and best friend of 16 years, Jacob. She splits her time between the family’s camper in the North Dakota Oil Patch and a small urban homestead in Kentucky. Chelsea writes about the family’s camper adventures at She is a batik artist and loves teaching others about the art of batik at She can also be found working on her other sites and In her moments of spare time she enjoys knitting, sewing and gardening.

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