I’m Scared and I Want My Husband!


I’d hoped to follow up my post about travel from last week with a post about what to take in your first aid travel kit. Unfortunately, there has been a lot going on and this the past week has been a blur of midwife, chiropractor and acupuncture appointments interspersed with trying every trick known to man to turn a breech baby. I’ve spoken briefly about this pregnancy in past post, but now I’m nearly at week 35 and starting to run out of time to get the baby to turn. My midwife advises me that the baby has two weeks to turn before I start having to make some tough choices about how I want to proceed with delivery. The problem is that I have an intense, paralyzing fear of c-sections that goes well beyond the simple fear  of surgery and into some deeply rooted psychological hang ups. Unfortunately, there is only one doctor in town who will even attempt to birth a breech baby without doing a c-section so my choices in this situation are somewhat limited.

With all this going on, there is no easy way to say this, but quite simply, I’m scared and I want my husband!  Most of the time I am so very thankful for everything that oilfield is able to provide our family. Right now, however, I want nothing more than my husband home with me to help me figure this all out and to tell me that no matter what happens it’s all going to be okay. My husband truly loves what he does, it’s the only job he’s every felt truly comfortable doing, but this situation has shaken even his confidence in continuing to remain in the oilfield industry. In these situations I usually try to be the strong one who bolsters him up, but given the circumstances that’s not been something I’ve been able to do lately. In the end, I know that no matter what happens it will all be okay, but right now things are pretty scary for me and hard on him not being able to be here for support. Such is the life of an oilfield family. I know we won’t be trading this lifestyle in any time soon, but it sure is tough sometimes!

One thing that has been helping me through it all has been hearing the stories of other women who have had breech babies or successful cesareans. I’d love to hear from some oilfield wives as well about how you’ve dealt with these things and with having husbands far away through the process. I would be so grateful if you’d please leave me a comment and share your story. Just knowing that others have been in this situation and weathered the storm well is immensely helpful!

About chelsea

Chelsea is mama to 4 year old Will and partner to her oilfield man and best friend of 16 years, Jacob. She splits her time between the family’s camper in the North Dakota Oil Patch and a small urban homestead in Kentucky. Chelsea writes about the family’s camper adventures at www.talesofanoilfieldgypsy.blogspot.com. She is a batik artist and loves teaching others about the art of batik at www.beautyofbatik.com. She can also be found working on her other sites www.chelseaniehaus.com and www.urbanagricultureinfo.com. In her moments of spare time she enjoys knitting, sewing and gardening.


  1. Lawry Crosby says:

    My kiddo (now 6) was breech til 39 weeks overshot his due date by 6 days but did turn his self around for a normal vaginal birth so hang in there your lil backwards butt may just get it right in the end!!

  2. E Ellis says:

    I have had three successful c-sections and 3 very healthy babies. I won’t say it wasn’t scary because the thought of it was terrifying but it is all worth it when you hear the baby’s first cry and get to see them. Then of course my OFM had to go back to work shortly after but that’s the life of the oilfield. Have a strong support group and you will do great especially if you set you mind to it! Good luck to you hope you little one turns around for you!

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