Always Going



Last night my oilfield man (OFM) called for our usual post-safety meeting, pre-dinner evening chat. We have been doing Face Time more and more and our daughter absolutely loves it! As silly as it sounds, it really does feel like we are all gathered around the table laughing and talking or sitting on the couching joking and sharing stories. I couldn’t help but laugh when our three year old said “Uh Dad why do you have a mustache? Mom, look Daddy has a mustache!” and she broke out into a giggle. My husband smiled (God I love his smile) and said “Well baby, Daddy has been busy running casing so I have not shaved (nor showered I’m sure) for a few days because I have been working hard”. Riley grabs my phone and says “Well Daddy I like your hat”, my husband responded with a kiss to the hard hat compliment and Riley started laughing and ran off.  As silly as it sounds, and as simple and common as that phone call was, it made me realized that sometimes in this life we just need to stop, smile, and laugh even if it is about mustaches and hard hats.

Working full time as a oilfield wife is fast paced. A lot of days I find myself rushed, okay who am I kidding everyday I find myself rushed. From the minute my OFM calls me to say “Wake up honey” to the second or third call he makes saying “Baby you now have 45 minutes to get out the door with a three year old” I am in a hurry or running late. Being a working oilfield wife I’d like to pretend I am always on time, relaxed, easy going, and not on the run from one thing to the next but I am! I live off lists, calendars, appointment books, and alarms. I am ridiculously lucky I have not got a speeding ticket recently (knock on wood) and I am constantly feeling pressed to get off the phone, get in the car, send an email, and really just get through the day to get everything planned for tomorrow. I never stop to take in the moment and if your talking to me, I am usually probably already formatting my response in my head when you are still mid-statement. I really need to stop some days and laugh at mustaches and hard hats.

Children always have something going on! Is it just me or does it seem like kids these days have a birthday party, play date, sleep over, or some kind of invite practically every weekend? This is a joke with my OFM and myself, because all the festivities and invites seem to fall on days he is on his hitch so yours truly is always Mommy Taxi to our little guest, it really is funny. My husband will call and say “So what are my girls doing today?” I answer with the usual so and so is turning 5 or this kids dog is having a birthday, or Riley has this or that, my OFM always answers “Well you have fun with that honey”. Some days I think the eighteen year old kid who works the toy aisle at Grand Junction Target knows me personally, I certainly think he knows Riley because she always makes a point to say hello and discuss what she had for breakfast or whose party she has been invited too. I love our little oilfield princesses to pieces but between her own activities and the celebrations of friends were are always on the go, and yes usually fashionably late too. We change for dance in the bathroom, we eat in the car, and we keep markers in the car for filling out cards in parking lots. Even with all the fun and excitement of friends and being a kid some days you still have to stop and remember to laugh and smile at mustaches and hard hats.

I am not a good friend. I will be the first to admit I am terrible about ever attending a “Girls Night”, I have to double check my client appointments to see if I can have coffee or lunch with a girlfriend, and really really suck at dropping my friends a text, instant message, or giving them a call just to let them know I adore them. I saw this quote the other day, “I’d rather have four quarters than a hundred pennies when it comes to friends” and I can honestly tell you the “quarters” in my life are more like gold coins! You girls know who you are and I love you! I have stood you all up probably at least once, most likely last minute flaked due to exhaustion, or canceled all together because I am ran into the dirt. I know the reason why I am not a great friends and why I am just an average friend and that is because I get consumed so much with all the other roles in my life that all too often, my girlfriends get put on the back burner. I try to do everything and please everyone when sometimes by doing this you miss everyone all together! Thank God for FB, thank God for all Social Media, because without which I would never have a public place for me to tell the whole world what a rocking group of girlfriends I have and I do not deserve them. The difference between being a good friend and being a great friend is some days you just have to stop and remember to laugh and smile at mustaches and hard hats.

The truth of the matter is the oilfield wife is busy. We are runners, we do double the work and carry all the pieces for our hardworking men. The OFW is constantly on the go but the problem with constantly leaving here to go there is that you get so caught up in the actions that you end up missing out. My daughter and I were driving our usual morning commute last week, I of course speeding to get Riley to the sitter so I could make it to work on time, and I look in my rear view mirror to see her smiling, eyes closed, sunshine coming up and on her face, window half down with cool morning air. Riley tilted her head forward, saw me looking at her and said “Let’s just slow down mama and take our time.” This moment has kind of stuck with me and made me realize that when you become too busy, life can just pass you by. This lifestyle, this life, it is not for everyone however you can not let it consume you.

I do not know about all of you, but from now on, when I am stuck in traffic and late to a meeting, when I am contemplating how to get a Crayola Marker stain out of my duvet cover, or questioning going to drinks with a friend Friday at 5 when I have dirty house and mountain of laundry, I am going to make time. The oilfield wife has to remember to make time for her life, even if its just to sit and laugh and smile about mustaches and hard hats.

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About rebecca

Becky and her family live in the beautiful town of Grand Junction, Colorado. She has been an OFW for almost three years, has a degree in Business Management, and works fulltime as a Digital Sales Manager for a local news station. She and her husband have one three year old daughter, Riley who is sweet, sassy, and even in heels and boas likes to pretend she is a dragon, that’s right ladies a dragon. In addition to work, Becky also volunteers on a fundraising committee for a local hospital, is a marketing chair member for a local not for profit, and helps pitch in at her daughters pre-school to raise funds. In her spare time (because she has SO MUCH of it) this OFW enjoys gardening, building projects on Shutterfly, cooking, golfing with her hubby, playing volleyball, and enjoying time on the lake with her family. Follow Becky on Pinterest and Instagram.

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