My Oilfield Anniversary

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My Hot Oil Man and I celebrated our 11th anniversary a few days ago.  That marks our wedding anniversary AND my anniversary as an Oilfield Wife. My husband starting working in the oilfield a few months before we got married.  From the beginning it was a different lifestyle than a lot of our friends.  Back then he worked a 6 days on/two off schedule, and was home every night.  Being young newly weds without kids I waited up for him at night and got up early with him everyday to make his lunch and see him off.  He kept that 6 and 2 schedule for several years and for the most part we liked it.  It was nice to have rotating days off.  Sometimes you need a weekday off (for appointments and what not) but it’s also nice to have a weekend off, too. It was hard to socialize though.   Anytime we made plans with friends to go out to dinner, of course that would be the night he had to work late or get called back out.

Eventually he worked his way up the ladder and he got set days off of Sundays and Mondays and that was nice, too. But it was still long hours  – late nights and early mornings.  As an oilfield wife, when his schedule changed – mine changed, too.  That’s just part of an oilfield marriage. Once we had kids things were a little different.   He missed seeing them if they were already in bed when he worked late. Once when our daughter was first born he went three days without seeing her (other than peeking in her crib) because he got home too late and left too early.  Then, about 4 1/2 years ago my husband started working in Alaska. We really enjoyed the 2 week on/2 week off schedule. He got so much MORE time with us, time that we weren’t used to. There was no waiting up for him, or getting up early, and no getting called back out. Once he was home he was HOME –  he was present mentally and physically. The traveling was tough though, and expensive. That’s when we decided to move to Alaska.  It was another good decision. We’ve been here almost 3 years and we joke that it feels like we’ve just been playing the whole time. It’s like a constant vacation and we’re kind of waiting for things to get real again.  When is the party going to get over?  We can’t play forever, can we?

After 11 years of being an OF wife, I can look back and see how I have changed over the years, and how my relationship has adapted. I’ve had to be flexible. We’ve had to embrace change and not be afraid to try something new.  I don’t know what’s in store for us the next 11 years, but I am looking forward to it.

About jenna

Jenna has been an oilfield wife for over 12 years. Her Hot Oil Man husband started working in the oilfield a few months before they were married. The oilfield has lead them all the way from Northern CO to Alaska, where they've lived in the Matanuska Valley for 4 years. The family consists of their two children; a strong-willed daughter age 10, and a goofy son age 7. And of course what family would be complete without a couple of dogs and rabbits thrown in the mix. Jenna is a stay at home mom who doesn't “stay at home” much, and enjoys gardening, baking, reading, watching movies, four wheeling, hiking, fishing, and LOVES shopping. Since moving to the last frontier they have also started home schooling, which is another adventure all it’s own.

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