Not enough hours in the day


As a stay at home Oilfield wife, I suffer from “not-enough-hours-in-the-day-itis”. When my husband is gone I feel like I am busy from the time I wake up until the time I fall into bed at night. Kids, house, yard, school, errands, meals, shopping, dogs, laundry…..I feel like I can’t keep up with everything.

I’m not always pleasant. I get stressed out, and I can also get grumpy. I hate Hate HATE feeling like I’m not on top of everything. I like to feel in control. I am a perfectionist.  I like to be ahead of the game. But I get burnt out when I’m pulling double duty while my Hot Oil Man is away. It can be hard to be mother, father, teacher, chef, housekeeper, and chauffeur all at one time. Wearing so many hats can take its toll on a person – – but my kids are always taken care of, and they always know that I love them no matter what, even if I’m having a grumpy day.

Somehow, some way, I’ve always managed to stay afloat in my 11 years as an Oilfield wife. I get by by sticking to a routine and prioritizing (if I find the time for one chore then I need to choose the most important one –  for example, maybe the heap of ironing can wait,  but the dirty bathroom can’t).

I suffer from “not enough hours in the day itis”, and I struggle with all my responsibilities – but I just need to stop and breathe. This isn’t a serious ailment, not-enough-hours-in the-day-itis can be managed. I just have to choose what gets done in the few hours I do have, and what gets overlooked for one more day. Somehow, we live through every hitch. I’ve survived every single hitch so far and that’s a pretty good track record. In fact, we do more than survive. We even manage to have fun and enjoy ourselves. Along with the rough days, there are also fabulous days. I have many precious moments with my kids when it’s just them and me here. So, even though there are not enough hours in the day, at least I’m with the people I love the most and we get to spend those short hours together.

About jenna

Jenna has been an oilfield wife for over 12 years. Her Hot Oil Man husband started working in the oilfield a few months before they were married. The oilfield has lead them all the way from Northern CO to Alaska, where they've lived in the Matanuska Valley for 4 years. The family consists of their two children; a strong-willed daughter age 10, and a goofy son age 7. And of course what family would be complete without a couple of dogs and rabbits thrown in the mix. Jenna is a stay at home mom who doesn't “stay at home” much, and enjoys gardening, baking, reading, watching movies, four wheeling, hiking, fishing, and LOVES shopping. Since moving to the last frontier they have also started home schooling, which is another adventure all it’s own.


  1. So far I can really relate to all this stuff on this site and it’s just my first day here…HA. Sounds like a case of “perfectwife-itis!” I get it especially bad about 2 days before my Oilfield hubby gets home. The days he’s gone get sucked away in some life’s to do list vacuum and the nights get buried in icecream. I’ve done a million things yet there are still like 14 more on my list and I still want to grocery shop to stock the fridge with his favorites, get him 3 new pair of jeans from the mall that’s over an hour drive away, wash the linens, dogs, and dog beds (in that order) and call my sister back AND NONE OF THOSE FOUR ARE EVEN ON THE LIST! LOL but as you said, at the end of the day what matters most is that it all usually falls into place and we ride the high of family together once he walks through the door so why all the anxiety? I have three mantras that work for me when I use them:
    1. “Everything is alright already.”
    2. “Well that’s the way it goes when the staff no-shows” LOL (total joke)
    3. “Eff it, I’ll just mop after he’s home and shave my legs instead. That’s the lack of waxing he’ll really notice!” Heeeeheeeheeeheehee


    • Welcome!
      I agree with you!!
      I always feel like there’s SOOO much to do to get ready for him to come home…cook, clean, stock up etc. But then by the time his hitch is up, I feel like there’s a ton to do to get ready for him to be gone and for me to be on my own again…cook, clean, stock up. lol
      I guess there’s just always too much to do. 😉

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