Stop Labeling

I feel like I am constantly being labeled. Why do we have to put people into groups? And why do the worst “members” of the group seem to determine the reputation for everyone?  If you look for bad, you will find it- in any group, whether that group is the oilfield,  political leaders, or even just your own circle of friends.  You don’t have to look far to find priests or church officials who have embezzled money, or had affairs. But what about the thousands that have done good? Fed the poor, helped others, served God.

I feel like I am judged for being a stay at home, for being a home-schooler, for being oilfield trash…. I have many labels, each one with a negative reputation.

It’s not hard to find the bad in the oilfield.  There are plenty of men that cheat on their wives, use drugs, go from job to job.  They truly are the “trash” of the OF. But this does not define the oilfield. I think there are far more men that are just trying their best to provide for their families. Honest, moral, hardworking med . But yet what label does the oilfield have? “Oilfield trash”. Once again the overall group is getting judged by just a few sour grapes.

This goes for homeschooling and  stay-at-home moms, too. And just about every “group” I am a part of. There are many home-schoolers that are doing a horrible job. I know. I see it first had. There are third graders that can barely write their name, and children that don’t know how to act to in public. But again, I believe that is the minority of the home-school community. For the most part, home-schoolers are involved parents that are providing a good education for their children.  But that’s not what people think when hear “home-school”.

How about “stay at home mom”?  I am not lazy.  I don’t wear sweats in public.  I do not sit around eating bon bons or watching soap operas. In fact, days go by that the TV doesn’t even get turned on because we are too busy with school, or I am too busy with housework and cooking, or too busy running around to all our activities. (Home-schoolers don’t actually stay home all the time).

I know this sounds like a rant and doesn’t really have a point. I’m just tired of feeling like everyone is deciding who they think I am by looking for the bad instead of the good. I am fed up with people judging the oilfield based on a few losers. I am sick of stay at homes moms being labeled as fat and lazy. I’m tired of homeschooling having the label of “unsocial” or “backwards”. I’m tired of being labeled as a hater because I am a Christian and have conservative beliefs. I don’t judge others based on their career, race, or religion. I think it’s time people quit labeling one another, especially then the labels were decided by viewing the very bottom of the barrel of each group. I am much more than a conservative,  home schooling, stay at home, Oilfield wife…even if that is my label.

About jenna

Jenna has been an oilfield wife for over 12 years. Her Hot Oil Man husband started working in the oilfield a few months before they were married. The oilfield has lead them all the way from Northern CO to Alaska, where they've lived in the Matanuska Valley for 4 years. The family consists of their two children; a strong-willed daughter age 10, and a goofy son age 7. And of course what family would be complete without a couple of dogs and rabbits thrown in the mix. Jenna is a stay at home mom who doesn't “stay at home” much, and enjoys gardening, baking, reading, watching movies, four wheeling, hiking, fishing, and LOVES shopping. Since moving to the last frontier they have also started home schooling, which is another adventure all it’s own.

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