My True Calling – Being an Oilfield Mom


Time is going too fast. My kids are growing up so quickly that I wish I could slow down the clock.  I’m thankful that I get to be a stay at home Oilfield wife because time may be flying by at warp speed, but at least I get to make the most of each and every moment by spending as much of it as possible with my children.  All too soon they will be gone. We still have a while yet before they are grown and out on their own,  but as they get older they are in more sports, more extra-curricular activities, and they are going to friend’s houses more frequently. They are more socially involved in general and spending less time at home.  In a nut shell –  they are growing up.

While I am so very proud to watch them test their wings, I’m also sad. I don’t wish they were babies again, but I do wish I could savor these moments just a bit longer. I love watching them grow. It’s such a pleasure to see them change and adapt and as they learn about the world.  I love who they are, and who they are becoming, and I’m privileged to be a part of it. They are learning and growing everyday and it is truly my honor to get to be their mother. I don’t feel I have given up anything by staying home with my children instead of pursuing a career. I don’t feel it has been a sacrifice to give up girls night out in exchange for reading bedtime stories. Being a stay at home oilfield mom is not glamorous. It’s not always fun. It’s definitely not easy, but it is the purpose of my life, and the greatest gift I have been given. It is my calling and my greatest achievement.

I didn’t know it was going to be my calling. Growing up I didn’t plan out my wedding or decide how many kids I’d have in the future like other little girls. And I certainly didn’t visualize I’d be married to an oilfield man and that I’d be a stay at home mom to a son and daughter. Life has been a journey and I’ve been along for the ride. I took things one step at a time, never thinking ahead too far. I’ve always been ready for the next adventure, and becoming a mom has been the best one yet. I’m getting to enjoy life all over again, through their eyes.

Being a stay at home oilfield mom will not make me rich or famous or important in the eyes of the world.  I won’t be the first woman to walk on Mars, or make a major scientific breakthrough, or win a Grammy –  but I am making a great contribution to the world.  I am raising two amazing kids that the world is lucky to have.  I don’t have any accomplishments in the business world, and my walls aren’t covered with degrees and achievements…instead they’re covered with various art projects and homemade birthday cards.  I’ll never win any lifetime achievement awards –  but I feel that same pride when my daughter gets a 100% on her math test, or I see my son make a basket in PE, or they save their money to buy each other Christmas gifts.  THOSE are my rewards.  I’m proud when my son rushes to hold the door open for someone, or my daughter goes out of her way to encourage a friend.  THAT is what my life is about. THEY are my life’s work.

“Children make your life important.” ~Erma Bombeck

About jenna

Jenna has been an oilfield wife for over 12 years. Her Hot Oil Man husband started working in the oilfield a few months before they were married. The oilfield has lead them all the way from Northern CO to Alaska, where they've lived in the Matanuska Valley for 4 years. The family consists of their two children; a strong-willed daughter age 10, and a goofy son age 7. And of course what family would be complete without a couple of dogs and rabbits thrown in the mix. Jenna is a stay at home mom who doesn't “stay at home” much, and enjoys gardening, baking, reading, watching movies, four wheeling, hiking, fishing, and LOVES shopping. Since moving to the last frontier they have also started home schooling, which is another adventure all it’s own.


  1. What you’re describing is called “motherhood”. Oilfield moms are employed by oilfield companies.

    • That’s just semantics. “Oilfield Wife/Mom” can just as easily define someone that is married to an oilfield employee.

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