What I Hate About Being an Oilfield Wife


Being an Oilfield Wife is a Love/Hate relationship. There’s certain aspects that I love, and there’s also parts I hate. There’s also things I love to hate, and things I hate to love……or something like that.

Anyway, here’s a list of a few of the things I HATE about being an Oilfield Wife:

1. Pity
I hate it. Don’t feel sorry for me. We chose this lifestyle, it has it’s ups and downs for sure, but I’m not crying about it, so neither should you.

2. Too Much Independence
I am an independent person to begin with, so stick me in charge of the entire household for two weeks at a time, all by myself, and I become even more self-reliant and stuck in my rut. I have to manage on my own whether I want to or not – but then it’s hard to go back to co-pilot mode when the husband gets home. It’s hard to hand over those reins sometimes. Too much independence can be a negative thing.

3. Loneliness
Even the roughest, toughest, most hardcore, oilfield wife gets lonely sometimes. And I’m not talking about needing a night out with the girls, what I mean is when you need some encouragement, or even just a hug from your oilman who is far away.

4. Stress
When my Hot Oil Man is gone I walk a line trying to keep him up to date on everything going on at home, but without stressing him with details that he can’t do anything about. I want him included and informed on the goings on at home, but not unnecessarily stressed or worried. It’s hard to find that balance.  Sometimes I feel like I’m carrying the weight of world on my shoulders.

5. Stereo Types
I’ve complained about this before. There seems to be 2 stereo-types that come with the oilfield. 1) you are poor oilfield trash, or 2) you are rich. Both are wrong. Where we live, it’s seems to be the common misconception that oilfield equals rich. We are a one income family and live in one of the most expensive places you can live in the US. We are not rich. We are not poor. And we certainly aren’t trash.

6. NO Normalcy
One of the things I like about being an oilfield wife is the two and two hitch. We get so much family time. We live life on a completely different schedule than most people. It’s fun. It’s adventurous…but we have no normal! So many things are up in the air. Flights can get canceled, schedules can get changed. I feel like we’re always waiting for that “what if” to mess everything up. It makes me wonder – what is it like to have a “normal” life?

7. Time
I hate time. It goes by too quickly when you live your life in two week hitches. Sometimes the “alone” weeks drag by, and usually the “together” weeks fly by. And sometimes (let’s be honest) the weeks together at home can tend to drag a little, too. Ha. Overall, I wish I could slow time down a bit. I’d like to either slow down the clock or add a few more hours to the day so I wouldn’t be so stressed and busy when my Hot Oil Man is gone, and I’d have more time to get everything done.  Then we’d also have more time together when he’s home.

These are all things I hate, but I suppose the good things outweigh the bad, so we will keep on keepin’ on and deal with the good and the bad in our oilfield life.


About jenna

Jenna has been an oilfield wife for over 12 years. Her Hot Oil Man husband started working in the oilfield a few months before they were married. The oilfield has lead them all the way from Northern CO to Alaska, where they've lived in the Matanuska Valley for 4 years. The family consists of their two children; a strong-willed daughter age 10, and a goofy son age 7. And of course what family would be complete without a couple of dogs and rabbits thrown in the mix. Jenna is a stay at home mom who doesn't “stay at home” much, and enjoys gardening, baking, reading, watching movies, four wheeling, hiking, fishing, and LOVES shopping. Since moving to the last frontier they have also started home schooling, which is another adventure all it’s own.

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