Oilfield Fathers

dadsI know this is a “wives” website, but the other half of a wife is the husband, so I think it’s OK if I talk mostly about men just this once.

All of us know how hard it is being an oilfield mom, but oilfield dads deserve a big pat on the back, too. We couldn’t be doin’ what we’re doin’ without them. While we have to struggle with never getting a break from kids and home responsibilities (never ever), they struggle with always having to leave the kids and the home. We never get a moment a lone.  They gets weeks “alone”. Neither is ideal. I don’t know which is the lesser of two evils. Both oilfield moms and oilfield dads have super tough jobs. It’s rough circumstances all around.

I know it’s hard for my Hot Oil Man (and for every oil man) when their time comes to go back to work. Even though my son is 7, he still cries when dad has to leave, and it breaks my husband’s heart. It’s hard on all of us.  It takes some time to adjust every time my HOM comes home, too. I have to get out of my “flying solo” mode, and he not only has to get out of his solo mode, but he also has to deal with being around (and living with) a wife and two kids. I have to make space for him in my daily life, but other than that, my world pretty much stays the same. Not that it’s necessarily easy to get used to having him home – but he’s been with only oilfield men for two weeks, had a room and a bathroom all to himself for two weeks, and not had to worry about anything other than work “stuff”…and then he comes home to chaos.  Talk about culture shock.  He’s bombarded with a wife and kids, dogs, honey-do lists, bills, noise, and schedules the minute he walks in the door. That’s not easy. I know it’s not. It can’t be.

What oilfield dads do may go unnoticed – or at least unacknowledged sometimes – so to my HOM and all the other oilfield dads out there, I want to say a big thank you.  Whether you are at home or at work, I hope you had a Happy Father’s Day. You deserve recognition for your hard work at work, at home, and those days in between – in limbo – while you adjust.
THANK YOU Oilfield Fathers!

About jenna

Jenna has been an oilfield wife for over 12 years. Her Hot Oil Man husband started working in the oilfield a few months before they were married. The oilfield has lead them all the way from Northern CO to Alaska, where they've lived in the Matanuska Valley for 4 years. The family consists of their two children; a strong-willed daughter age 10, and a goofy son age 7. And of course what family would be complete without a couple of dogs and rabbits thrown in the mix. Jenna is a stay at home mom who doesn't “stay at home” much, and enjoys gardening, baking, reading, watching movies, four wheeling, hiking, fishing, and LOVES shopping. Since moving to the last frontier they have also started home schooling, which is another adventure all it’s own.

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