11 Facts about Oilfield Wives

11 Facts About Oilfield Wives1. Oilfield wives are the most capable women you will ever meet. They know how to fix the sink, mow the lawn, dig out a splinter, change a flat, and a million and one other things. Not necessarily by choice, but because these catastrophes only happen when the oilfield men are gone and the women have no choice but to handle the problem.

2. Being in an oilfield marriage is difficult. Being a wife isn’t easy. All marriages require work, but being an OILFIELD wife is even harder, and oilfield marriages require even more work. An oilfield marriage takes a lot of patience, prayer, and perseverance.

3. Oilfields wives aren’t necessarily “anti-social”, they’re just used to not needing anyone else around.

4.Oilfield wives roll their eyes at women that whine about their husbands being away on overnight business trips.

5. It’s hard for a parent to be both the mom and dad. Oilfield wives have to do this half of the time…while still leaving a place for dad.

6.Oilfield wives are the best multi-taskers in the world.

7. They are tougher than they look.

8. Just because they have to be tough, doesn’t mean oilfield wives don’t have feelings. Just because a person is capable of doing something (like living without their husbands for weeks at a time) doesn’t mean they enjoy it.

9. Oilfield wives might have a breakdown every now and then. It’s healthy to release some steam once in a while.ย  Even if it seems as though they have it all together, an oilfield wife might be struggling.

10. Even a lonely oilfield wife needs some “me time”. Being alone is not the same as having time to yourself.

11. Oilfield wives will do absolutely anything for their families. That might mean living in a camper to be closer to dad, or in other circumstances, it might mean living in another state (or country) and hardly seeing dad at all. Whatever the case may be, an oilfield wife always has her family’s best interests at heart. There’s nothing she won’t do for her family.

About jenna

Jenna has been an oilfield wife for over 12 years. Her Hot Oil Man husband started working in the oilfield a few months before they were married. The oilfield has lead them all the way from Northern CO to Alaska, where they've lived in the Matanuska Valley for 4 years. The family consists of their two children; a strong-willed daughter age 10, and a goofy son age 7. And of course what family would be complete without a couple of dogs and rabbits thrown in the mix. Jenna is a stay at home mom who doesn't โ€œstay at homeโ€ much, and enjoys gardening, baking, reading, watching movies, four wheeling, hiking, fishing, and LOVES shopping. Since moving to the last frontier they have also started home schooling, which is another adventure all itโ€™s own.


  1. Hi Jenna, I have been an oilfield wife in Alaska for 36 years! Yes there are so many things I have learned over the years while my husband and I have raised 3 wonderful sons! Being an oilfield wife has been a life we have chosen, but being an oilfield husband who has worked away from home over 36 years as also been full of sacrifices. Enjoyed your article. Thanks. Dala

    • Hi Dala! I have been an oilfield wife for 12 years, the last 4 spent in AK. It’s not an easy lifestyle we’ve chosen, but I love it! I hope we make it to 36 years in AK like you! ๐Ÿ™‚

  2. Carolyn says:

    Still not as hard as a military wife!!!!!

  3. J Lopez says:

    If you replace “oilfield” with “trucker”, its still totally legit and relevant. As a truckers wife, I completely understand the sacrifices y’all make. My husband is such an amazing blessing to our family. Thank you for sharing this with everyone!

  4. Good read, Jenna, you hit it right on the spot.

    @ Carolyn, military wives, my respects to you all. You ladies, are on the top.

    Overall, as women, many of us go through all of this.

  5. Lindsey Smith says:

    Been an oilfield wife for 30 years, done the 24/7 on call schedule, the 60/70-30 schedule, then did the expat bit in the Gulf (Arabian) and Thailand. Now back to North Sea oilfields. Recognize all the points you make but also the constant worry that the chopper will go down in freezing waters, he will be on another rig that explodes and he will never come home. Or where he is working is attacked by terrorists, or he is kidnapped by angry locals looking to make a bit extra. Carolyn, no only soldiers’ wives worry over an absent husband’s safety. We all are fighting battles, pet, and we all sympathise.

  6. Ev Nickel-Olson says:

    As a long haul truck drivers wife, I can relate to this too ๐Ÿ™‚

  7. I love this post!! I can relate to each and every point! I’m an oilfield wife of 5 years and have 2 little angels aged 3 and 3 months. I’m from Singapore and there arent many people who can relate to me, if at all. So reading this totally made my day!

    • Thank you!
      You’ve come to the right website to find women who can relate to the Oilfield way of life! ๐Ÿ™‚

  8. I think some of the women at the very top of loneliness are diplomats’ wives. Sometimes, they move from one mission to another and you only get to know few minutes before he boards the plane, probably because he got to know only 30 minutes earlier. It is pretty tough!

  9. As someone who has worked in the oil patch in the past, and a current “non-oil-field” husband, the whole concept confuses me. When I graduated from college and got married, I had two options. I could take an oil patch job (I had done a lot of oil patch work when I was single) and make $100K – $200K per year, or I could take a job in town doing similar work, but would be home every night. Of course, the sacrifice is that I would only be making $50K / year instead of 6 figures.

    Now, 12 years later, I regret nothing, and I honestly feel sad for those men who take jobs that take them away from their families for weeks at a time… whether by choice, or not. My vehicle is 9 years old – but it is paid off, and gets me from point A to point B. The place I live in might be small, but it is more than enough for what my family needs.

    Most importantly, I’ve been home almost every night for the past 12 years. I have an incredible relationship with my daughter who is now 10 years old. I cook most nights, I clean the house, I share the responsibilities around the house. I have hobbies, I spend time every single day with my partner, and kid. My quality of life is amazing, and it didn’t take money to get me there, it took time.

    To each his or her own, but I know far too many kids who never got to spend time with their dad’s growing up. This isn’t a cut against “Oil Patch Wives”, this is against the whole culture that makes it normal & ok for husbands & fathers (and mothers) to spend the majority of their time away from their families in order to “make ends meet”.

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