About ashley

Ashley and her husband, Ryan, have been married for 4 years. They became an oilfield family in March of 2011. They live in Northeastern Pennsylvania with their 2 year old daughter, Anistyn, and two fur-children: Kora (the manic Australian Cattle Dog) and Jaxx (your typical lazy house cat). Ashley traded in her various degrees and certifications to take on her ultimate dream job of fulltime mommy and wife. When not throwing over-the-top toddler dance parties and reading the same storybook 104 times in a row she enjoys reading her own books, baking, writing, meeting new friends, trying new things, and saving every animal in need on the planet!

Moving On, But Still Holding On

Things have been bleak for a while now. Things are looking and feeling pretty low. Most of us have been forced to leave this lifestyle and move on, yet we’re all still holding on. We’re holding on to better days to come. We’re holding on to hope that things will turn around some day. We’re […]

The Murphy’s Law of Wives Who Rock it Solo

*Sigh* – The good ole’ Murphy’s Law. No one is exempt. Especially us wives who often find ourselves flying solo by the single thread we typically hang on to. Sound familiar? Good. I’m not alone then. Murphy’s Law is quite simple. It states, in every sense of the word, that anything that can go wrong, […]

Ruby

Trigger Warning: Loss, Miscarriage “Yellow Makes Her Happy” was the first article I had some trepidation about. It was in that article I shared with you, for the first time, the various struggles my daughter faces. It was also the first time I was given the opportunity to share with the world just how amazing […]

Who I Am When You Aren’t Around

I sometimes can’t help but wonder, if you’ve become somewhat of a stranger to me, have I become a stranger to you?  I’ve seen who you are change through our almost 6 years of marriage (as to be expected), and each time I feel something quite unexpected: surprise. Who is this man before me now? […]

Haters [gonna] Hate

“If I get it all down on paper, it’s no longer inside of me, Threatening the life it belongs to And I feel like I’m naked in front of the crowd Cause these words are my diary, screaming out loud And I know that you’ll use them, however you want to” -Anna Nalick, Breathe (2 […]

New Year, Old Me

Anyone that knows me in person knows that I loathe New Years. This year I think I’ve finally realized why. Besides the basics (Christmas is over, the magic is over, the pretty lights come down, etc.), it is a reminder that, once again, another year is gone and I’m still the same ol’ me. I […]

Puzzle Pieces

You know how each family member has their “place” so to say? Each one carries their own set of values, skills, ideals, and purpose? I’m not referring to the kind of “place” like “women in the kitchen” type thing, heavens no, not at all. Simply the kind of place where someone simply fits. We had […]

Unwinding

It is no surprise that oilfield wives get stressed. Often. I mean, just thinking about all of the things we need to tackle, usually solo, is enough to drive even the sanest of women over the edge we were barely on anyway. Right?! It took me a while to figure out what I needed to […]

Defining Yourself

“Hi! This is Ashley, Ryan’s wife.” “Good Morning! This is Ashley, Ani’s mom.” …I do this all the time: making phone calls, running into people at the grocery store I seldom see, introducing myself to strangers, making appointments, and so on. It never fails. Why do I feel the need to place a title with […]

That Time We *Almost* Got Divorced

It’s a time we don’t necessarily bring up at family gatherings, or giggle about when reminiscing about our past together (like that one time in an elevator in Vegas). Sure, we think about it, but we rarely ever talk about it. My heart literally shudders at the mere recollection of words spoken between us once […]