An Oilfield Wife’s Breaking Point

I’m not sure where my breaking point is, but I might have already passed it. You know that saying, “When it rains, it pours?” Well that absolutely describes my life lately. Life can be hard.  Being an oilfield wife is hard. As a mom, I feel it’s my responsibility to be the glue of the […]

When the Husband is Away…

…The wife will play. And by play I mean re-design the entire house. What else is a wife to do when she has 3 weeks to herself (not!)? She’d like to think she has three weeks to herself while her husband is thousands of miles away training, but reality is she still has a child, […]

This, too, shall pass…Woes of an Oilfield Wife

I love my life. My Hot Oil Man and I have worked very hard to make a nice home and we have amazing children. The majority of the time we are happy, healthy, and content. I’m usually upbeat and always thankful for what we have. But this doesn’t mean that there won’t be the occasional […]

Is the oilfield life worth it?

Over the last 13 years of being an oilfield wife, when the going has gotten rough, I’ll stop and ask myself if this lifestyle is really worth it. It’s a life made up of sacrifices, hard work, and compromises. We all work so hard. Not just my Hot Oil Man up at the north slope […]

I Am an Oilfield Wife

I am a mother and a father.  I am comforting, nurturing, and gentle. I bathe, cuddle, read to, and tuck-in my kids every night.  I am also tough when discipline is needed. I am strict. I have to decide what’s allowed, and when enough is enough. I am the cheerleader, and the coach.  I am […]

Oilfield Fathers

I know this is a “wives” website, but the other half of a wife is the husband, so I think it’s OK if I talk mostly about men just this once. All of us know how hard it is being an oilfield mom, but oilfield dads deserve a big pat on the back, too. We […]

Learning to Sleep Alone… Again

We recently moved into a new house 4 miles from the one we were living in.  Actually, it’s an old house in the sense that it’s my childhood home that I grew up in. And when I was growing up in this house, some strange things happened. My parents didn’t believe me until years after […]

How did I get here?

Do you ever stop and look around and think, “How on earth did I get here?” I am in my mid-thirties and living in Alaska! How did this happen!? I still feel like a 19-year-old just starting out in the world. (Well, minus the aches and pains and wrinkles.) Where has the time gone? Time […]

I’m Breaking Up with You

Dear Pinterest, I want you to know that you started all of this with a hot dog.  Your behavior has allowed me to see that we just aren’t right for each other anymore.  I’m breaking up with you. You annoyed me a little bit.  That small annoyance grew into disdain and now I just don’t […]

Don’t Resent Me For Not Needing You

One of the biggest issues in oilfield marriages (or at least in mine) is the continual adapting. The back and forth between single parent/dual parent, single parent/dual parent. It’s a huge cycle of  being independent, then back to co-dependent, back to independent, back to co-dependent… It’s hard for both parents to know their positions when […]