It Becomes Who You Are

The oilfield slow down has been rough. So many people have lost their jobs, and the ones that are still employed have lost hours or had pay cuts. It’s not an easy time to be an oilfield family. Times are tough for sure. It’s scary. It’s overwhelming. During this time I find myself wondering, and […]

Who I Am When You Aren’t Around

I sometimes can’t help but wonder, if you’ve become somewhat of a stranger to me, have I become a stranger to you?  I’ve seen who you are change through our almost 6 years of marriage (as to be expected), and each time I feel something quite unexpected: surprise. Who is this man before me now? […]

How to Survive as an Oilfield Wife

Oilfield wives come in all shapes and sizes, as do their oilfield husbands. Some work outside the home, some have kids, some are homemakers, some see their husbands every day, and others go months without being together. As much as the lifestyles vary, the resources that are needed to survive the life of an oilfield […]

9 Things I Love about Oilfield Men

I know oilfield workers can’t be lumped into any one group – they come in all shapes, sizes, and colors. There is a vast range of jobs included in the “oilfield” and the workers are just as varied.  They range from the lowest rig hand to the highest CEO. From production, to service, to transportation. […]

Puzzle Pieces

You know how each family member has their “place” so to say? Each one carries their own set of values, skills, ideals, and purpose? I’m not referring to the kind of “place” like “women in the kitchen” type thing, heavens no, not at all. Simply the kind of place where someone simply fits. We had […]

Love and Christmas

I have always loved Christmas.  As I child, I would start waking my parents up at 3 AM to see if it was time to see what  Santa had brought.  They would finally give in about 4:30 or 5 AM.  Still to this day, the Christmas season makes me incredibly happy. As of this moment, […]

Brutiful

I looked at the test waiting for results.  The words flashed up on the screen, “NOT PREGNANT”.  Sigh.  I knew then that our second fertility treatment (a medicated IUI) had not been successful.  Our first fertility treatment had ended in miscarriage.  I started to cry.  Why does getting pregnant have to be so hard for […]

Keeping Things Sexy, Even When We’re Apart

I’m standing in front of the mirror topless trying to take a sexy picture to send to my husband.  I say “trying” because I’m taking a multitude of pictures and not happy with any of them.  As I’m scrolling through photos I see something I have never noticed before.  When on earth did my breasts […]

That Time We *Almost* Got Divorced

It’s a time we don’t necessarily bring up at family gatherings, or giggle about when reminiscing about our past together (like that one time in an elevator in Vegas). Sure, we think about it, but we rarely ever talk about it. My heart literally shudders at the mere recollection of words spoken between us once […]

Raising Kids in the Oilfield

There’s a classic rock song that I can’t listen to without tearing up.  Cat’s in the Cradle is one of my all-time favorites.  It’s folksy and nostalgic and one of the best songs ever. I’ve always liked it, but never truly understood it until I became a parent.  Now I totally “get it”.  It puts to music […]