It Isn’t Fun Anymore

“Trying is the fun part!!” she said smiling as she tried to find the right words to say. Truth is, there are no right words to say sometimes. I smiled back, “yeah,” I muttered, and then I walked away. Today marks the start of cycle 16; sixteen long, heart-wrenching months of trying for baby no.2. […]

It’s an Ordinary Life

It’s an ordinary life. Maybe not to someone outside the oilfield, but to us it’s normal. Regular. Uneventful. What some people think is strange, unusual, or interesting is just our everyday life. Our everyday, ordinary, regular, mundane life is two or more weeks with my Hot Oil Man gone, and then a week or two […]

I’m Not Ready for Him to Come Home Yet

Sometimes I’m not ready for my Hot Oil Man husband to come home. It’s not that I don’t miss him – because I do. I miss him every second that he’s gone. And it’s not that I don’t like having him here – because I love having him home. But sometimes I just don’t feel […]

What if He Falls in Love?

This question is, unfortunately, asked frequently. Women wondering if their hardworking man is cheating, ready to leave, or has fallen in love with someone else. Each situation different, but eerily similar, and each heartbreaking to read. Each story starts by noticing a change in him. He’s short on the phone and calling less often. He […]

Our New Normal

The truth hit me while in the middle of the cereal aisle at the grocery store.  I’m not sure why the realization that my husband was coming home for an unknown period of time hit me there, but it did.  We’ve been affected by the low oil prices just like many other oilfield families out […]

The Non-Desperate Housewife

Are there really desperate housewives out there? Women that are not content with their lives, marriages, homes, husbands, relationships, etc? Being a homemaker/stay-at-home-mom/housewife is not a glamorous life, but it can still be both fun and fulfilling. Is glamour really THAT appealing? I’m happy with my comfortable, predictable life. Maybe I’m the minority, but I am […]

An Open Letter To My Husband’s Ex-Girlfriends

Dear Ex-Girlfriends of my Husband, Yes, this is awkward. You’re probably asking yourself, “Why in the world is she writing to me? What could she possibly have to say?” A lot, actually. Don’t worry! I’m not here to call you out, or say bad things. I’m not going to put you down, or judge you. […]

Rediscovering Him

I know I’m not the only wife who has felt like she has a stranger in her bed. After weeks of being away from one another, while it’s amazingly nice, there is an odd sense of awkwardness in the air. Ok, I also admit that it’s also incredibly hot (what have I got to hide?). […]

What You Need to Know (and your oilfield husband won’t tell you)

I was ready to go to bat for each of you, fellow oilfield wives.  I had the hard-hitting questions ready and was eager to enlighten all of you with my new found information.  With not a hint of playfulness, I sat down with my husband and started asking him the questions we all want to […]

The Dreaded “Work-Over”

I hate hate, hate, hate when my husband has to work an extra week. He’s staying longer this hitch, so his usual two weeks away at the North Slope will actually be three. The dreaded “work-over”.  And that also means he’ll only get one week at home instead of two. Bad followed by worse!  Having […]