Enjoying Today

We sat on the back porch with a cup of iced tea and I asked my cousin Kristen a question that had been bothering me.  Kristen is one of those people that you want to hate.  She’s tall, thin, and gorgeous.  She is actually even more beautiful on the inside (barf inducing, I know).  I […]

An Oilfield Wife’s Breaking Point

I’m not sure where my breaking point is, but I might have already passed it. You know that saying, “When it rains, it pours?” Well that absolutely describes my life lately. Life can be hard.  Being an oilfield wife is hard. As a mom, I feel it’s my responsibility to be the glue of the […]

4 Truths About an Oilfield Marriage

Want to put your marriage to the test?  Have your husband join the oilfield.  Nothing puts pressure on a relationship like weeks apart with long hours and little sleep.  It can be a constant balance between one extreme to the other.  Admittedly, sometimes I am awesome at all of this and sometimes I just plain […]

This, too, shall pass…Woes of an Oilfield Wife

I love my life. My Hot Oil Man and I have worked very hard to make a nice home and we have amazing children. The majority of the time we are happy, healthy, and content. I’m usually upbeat and always thankful for what we have. But this doesn’t mean that there won’t be the occasional […]

Sometimes When You’re Gone

It is funny, sometimes, what you learn about yourself when you’re alone for long periods of time. Like going to a movie by yourself, or having dinner in a restaurant solo. Neither of which I’ve tried yet, but I fully intend to do so…one day. I can imagine you’d learn quite a lot about who […]

Visiting the Patch

Sometimes everything aligns perfectly in the universe.  Oilman will finally be on days and I will get a break in my work schedule.  It is during these times that I pack an overnight bag and head up to oilfield country because it is time to see my man.  I often get asked by my friends […]

Is the oilfield life worth it?

Over the last 13 years of being an oilfield wife, when the going has gotten rough, I’ll stop and ask myself if this lifestyle is really worth it. It’s a life made up of sacrifices, hard work, and compromises. We all work so hard. Not just my Hot Oil Man up at the north slope […]

War of the Wives

A little while ago I came across an oilfield apparel site that offers some cute, and creative, oilfield shirts for oilfield wives. One of them happened to be displayed on their Facebook page to promote the site. I forget the exact wording, but it basically read something to the extent of “Oilfield life is tough, […]

I Am an Oilfield Wife

I am a mother and a father.  I am comforting, nurturing, and gentle. I bathe, cuddle, read to, and tuck-in my kids every night.  I am also tough when discipline is needed. I am strict. I have to decide what’s allowed, and when enough is enough. I am the cheerleader, and the coach.  I am […]

Oilfield Wife Guilt

We all know that the supposed secret to survival and sanity in this crazy oilfield life is to stay busy while our oilfield man is away.  But what am I supposed to do with this guilt that I feel because I’m getting to do things while he works his butt off? As a team, we […]