11 Facts about Oilfield Wives

1. Oilfield wives are the most capable women you will ever meet. They know how to fix the sink, mow the lawn, dig out a splinter, change a flat, and a million and one other things. Not necessarily by choice, but because these catastrophes only happen when the oilfield men are gone and the women […]

Uncertainty

We’re at a crossroads. We could be nearing the end of our oilfield journey, and we’ve got some major decisions to make. I find myself feeling the exact same way at the end as I felt in the beginning…uncertain. Is this the right decision? Do we stay or do we go? What is best for […]

Oilfield Wife Guilt

We all know that the supposed secret to survival and sanity in this crazy oilfield life is to stay busy while our oilfield man is away.  But what am I supposed to do with this guilt that I feel because I’m getting to do things while he works his butt off? As a team, we […]

You’ve Been Initiated

There comes a moment where you officially become an oilfield wife.  I can’t tell you exactly when or where this happens because the process is different for everyone.  In that moment you will stop and realize just how amazing you are and strong you have become.  Give yourself a high-five and keep on trucking.  Here […]

Oilfield Fathers

I know this is a “wives” website, but the other half of a wife is the husband, so I think it’s OK if I talk mostly about men just this once. All of us know how hard it is being an oilfield mom, but oilfield dads deserve a big pat on the back, too. We […]

Boy, You Done Pissed Off an Oilfield Wife

Mr. Tankersley, I regret to inform you that you, unfortunately, have infuriated an Oilfield Wife. You’ve happened to catch me on a bad day, and I happen to have an outlet. The keyboard is blaring fire beneath my fingertips and while I plan on staying classy, I can almost guarantee my emotions will take over […]

The Real Men of the Oilfield

There is a side of the oilfield that most people don’t hear about.  It isn’t discussed openly, you won’t read about it, and people won’t talk about it at the water cooler.  It is a bit of a secret really and it is one I want you to know.  I solemnly swear to tell the […]

How did I get here?

Do you ever stop and look around and think, “How on earth did I get here?” I am in my mid-thirties and living in Alaska! How did this happen!? I still feel like a 19-year-old just starting out in the world. (Well, minus the aches and pains and wrinkles.) Where has the time gone? Time […]

Don’t Resent Me For Not Needing You

One of the biggest issues in oilfield marriages (or at least in mine) is the continual adapting. The back and forth between single parent/dual parent, single parent/dual parent. It’s a huge cycle of  being independent, then back to co-dependent, back to independent, back to co-dependent… It’s hard for both parents to know their positions when […]

Oilfield Cafe: Hot Oil Man Approved Salsa

I love salsa. I love Love LOVE it. I think I could live off chips and salsa. Since we live in Alaska and there are no good, authentic Mexican restaurants up here, making a tasty salsa is up to me. I have made many salsas in the past. I usually just throw things is – […]