5 Things I Wish Everyone Knew About Oilfield Wives

Everyone has an opinion about oilfield wives.  Whether it’s good or bad, people have a preconceived notion about what we’re like. There isn’t just one type of oilfield wife. We all have different personalities, different likes, different dislikes – but we do share the experiences of being married into the oilfield.  I wish other people […]

Ruby

Trigger Warning: Loss, Miscarriage “Yellow Makes Her Happy” was the first article I had some trepidation about. It was in that article I shared with you, for the first time, the various struggles my daughter faces. It was also the first time I was given the opportunity to share with the world just how amazing […]

Oilfield Parenting… What the heck am I doing?

Oilfield parenting is different than other parenting. It’s sort of like single parenting… but not. Other times it’s sort of like parenting with two stay-at-home parents… but not. It’s in a class of it’s own. Sometimes I feel on top of my game and I really think I have an idea of what’s going on […]

Time Keeps on Ticking

It’s a new year! 2015 has blown by, and now it’s 2016. I believe that time goes by quicker and quicker as we get older. It seems impossible that I’ll be 37 next month. Didn’t I just graduate from high school?  Wasn’t my 21st birthday last week?  My husband and I have been together 15 […]

Mom Standards

I am a horrible multi-tasker. Actually, I’m not horrible at it, I just hate it. I’d prefer to focus on one thing.   All women, all moms, and especially oilfield wives are multi-taskers. We have to be, we have no choice. At any given moment, I’m thinking about at LEAST 6 major issues, 22 medium […]

Raising Kids in the Oilfield

There’s a classic rock song that I can’t listen to without tearing up.  Cat’s in the Cradle is one of my all-time favorites.  It’s folksy and nostalgic and one of the best songs ever. I’ve always liked it, but never truly understood it until I became a parent.  Now I totally “get it”.  It puts to music […]

It Isn’t Fun Anymore

“Trying is the fun part!!” she said smiling as she tried to find the right words to say. Truth is, there are no right words to say sometimes. I smiled back, “yeah,” I muttered, and then I walked away. Today marks the start of cycle 16; sixteen long, heart-wrenching months of trying for baby no.2. […]

It’s an Ordinary Life

It’s an ordinary life. Maybe not to someone outside the oilfield, but to us it’s normal. Regular. Uneventful. What some people think is strange, unusual, or interesting is just our everyday life. Our everyday, ordinary, regular, mundane life is two or more weeks with my Hot Oil Man gone, and then a week or two […]

The Non-Desperate Housewife

Are there really desperate housewives out there? Women that are not content with their lives, marriages, homes, husbands, relationships, etc? Being a homemaker/stay-at-home-mom/housewife is not a glamorous life, but it can still be both fun and fulfilling. Is glamour really THAT appealing? I’m happy with my comfortable, predictable life. Maybe I’m the minority, but I am […]

Is the oilfield life worth it?

Over the last 13 years of being an oilfield wife, when the going has gotten rough, I’ll stop and ask myself if this lifestyle is really worth it. It’s a life made up of sacrifices, hard work, and compromises. We all work so hard. Not just my Hot Oil Man up at the north slope […]