Brutiful

I looked at the test waiting for results.  The words flashed up on the screen, “NOT PREGNANT”.  Sigh.  I knew then that our second fertility treatment (a medicated IUI) had not been successful.  Our first fertility treatment had ended in miscarriage.  I started to cry.  Why does getting pregnant have to be so hard for […]

Oilfield Holidays

My Hot Oil Man will be gone for Christmas. That’s nothing new. Some years he’s here, and some years he’s not. It doesn’t even bother me. We will celebrate when he gets home a few days after Christmas and that’s fine by me. In the past we’ve celebrated early, we’ve celebrated late… we celebrate whenever […]

Make a Difference This Christmas

I think many people want to help others, but they often don’t know how.  I have heard people say that they want to fill the needs in our communities, but they don’t have any idea what they are.  If we stop for a second and look around us, we can see it.  The hardest thing […]

An Ungrateful Thanksgiving

I am having a hard time getting into the holiday spirit. I have so much to complain about that it’s hard to feel thankful. Which might be because we’re not actually having a Thanksgiving meal. It’s hard to get in the mood when there’s no turkey and pumpkin pie. Maybe it’s because I’m meeting with […]

Pity Party

If you are wondering why I’m wearing pajama bottoms at 4:27 in the afternoon, it is because I’m hosting my own pity party.  You are invited to come and join in the sadness if you want.  I feel it is important to disclose you should tread lightly as my patience has worn thin and I’m […]

Defining Yourself

“Hi! This is Ashley, Ryan’s wife.” “Good Morning! This is Ashley, Ani’s mom.” …I do this all the time: making phone calls, running into people at the grocery store I seldom see, introducing myself to strangers, making appointments, and so on. It never fails. Why do I feel the need to place a title with […]

Mom Standards

I am a horrible multi-tasker. Actually, I’m not horrible at it, I just hate it. I’d prefer to focus on one thing.   All women, all moms, and especially oilfield wives are multi-taskers. We have to be, we have no choice. At any given moment, I’m thinking about at LEAST 6 major issues, 22 medium […]

Keeping Things Sexy, Even When We’re Apart

I’m standing in front of the mirror topless trying to take a sexy picture to send to my husband.  I say “trying” because I’m taking a multitude of pictures and not happy with any of them.  As I’m scrolling through photos I see something I have never noticed before.  When on earth did my breasts […]

That Time We *Almost* Got Divorced

It’s a time we don’t necessarily bring up at family gatherings, or giggle about when reminiscing about our past together (like that one time in an elevator in Vegas). Sure, we think about it, but we rarely ever talk about it. My heart literally shudders at the mere recollection of words spoken between us once […]

Start Living Your Life!

As an oilfield family, we’ve had our shares of hard times but by the grace of God, we’ve made it through them all. There have been rough patches when things looked bleak…but we never gave up because one thing I strongly believe is – if you don’t like how things are, change them! Take control […]