Oilfield Worker Appreciation Day

I declare today, Oilfield Worker Appreciation Day.  Write this day down.  It’s a new thing and we are going to start it.  #OilfieldWorkerAppreciation is happening on this very day folks. Have you ever looked to see all the “special” days we have in the US?  We celebrate all kinds of important things in this beautiful […]

Raising Kids in the Oilfield

There’s a classic rock song that I can’t listen to without tearing up.  Cat’s in the Cradle is one of my all-time favorites.  It’s folksy and nostalgic and one of the best songs ever. I’ve always liked it, but never truly understood it until I became a parent.  Now I totally “get it”.  It puts to music […]

It Isn’t Fun Anymore

“Trying is the fun part!!” she said smiling as she tried to find the right words to say. Truth is, there are no right words to say sometimes. I smiled back, “yeah,” I muttered, and then I walked away. Today marks the start of cycle 16; sixteen long, heart-wrenching months of trying for baby no.2. […]

Those Damn Expectations

It is those damn expectations, they get me every time. Part of how I have kept myself sane being an oilfield wife is adjusting my expectations.  I had to learn early on that things change in the oilfield quickly.  There is nothing like planning on spending time with my husband and counting down the days […]

It’s an Ordinary Life

It’s an ordinary life. Maybe not to someone outside the oilfield, but to us it’s normal. Regular. Uneventful. What some people think is strange, unusual, or interesting is just our everyday life. Our everyday, ordinary, regular, mundane life is two or more weeks with my Hot Oil Man gone, and then a week or two […]

25 Things Oilfield Wives [Never Thought They’d] Say

There are articles floating all around the internet focusing on topics like “15 Things Moms of Boys Say”, or “10 Things Moms of Girls Want You To Know.” Enter the oilfield wives. Have you ever said something to your oilfield man and then thought to yourself “…did I really just say that?!” Yes, yes you […]

I’m Not Ready for Him to Come Home Yet

Sometimes I’m not ready for my Hot Oil Man husband to come home. It’s not that I don’t miss him – because I do. I miss him every second that he’s gone. And it’s not that I don’t like having him here – because I love having him home. But sometimes I just don’t feel […]

They Will Never Understand

“I spoke to Oilman yesterday morning,” the friend said, “he sounded really tired.”  The friend was genuinely surprised that he sounded exhausted and beat down.  I might have given that person an exaggerated eye roll. I feel like a parent who has told their child something A MILLION TIMES ALREADY!  I get exasperated when people […]

What if He Falls in Love?

This question is, unfortunately, asked frequently. Women wondering if their hardworking man is cheating, ready to leave, or has fallen in love with someone else. Each situation different, but eerily similar, and each heartbreaking to read. Each story starts by noticing a change in him. He’s short on the phone and calling less often. He […]

Our New Normal

The truth hit me while in the middle of the cereal aisle at the grocery store.  I’m not sure why the realization that my husband was coming home for an unknown period of time hit me there, but it did.  We’ve been affected by the low oil prices just like many other oilfield families out […]