An Ungrateful Thanksgiving

I am having a hard time getting into the holiday spirit. I have so much to complain about that it’s hard to feel thankful. Which might be because we’re not actually having a Thanksgiving meal. It’s hard to get in the mood when there’s no turkey and pumpkin pie. Maybe it’s because I’m meeting with […]

It’s an Ordinary Life

It’s an ordinary life. Maybe not to someone outside the oilfield, but to us it’s normal. Regular. Uneventful. What some people think is strange, unusual, or interesting is just our everyday life. Our everyday, ordinary, regular, mundane life is two or more weeks with my Hot Oil Man gone, and then a week or two […]

I’m Not Ready for Him to Come Home Yet

Sometimes I’m not ready for my Hot Oil Man husband to come home. It’s not that I don’t miss him – because I do. I miss him every second that he’s gone. And it’s not that I don’t like having him here – because I love having him home. But sometimes I just don’t feel […]

An Oilfield Wife’s Breaking Point

I’m not sure where my breaking point is, but I might have already passed it. You know that saying, “When it rains, it pours?” Well that absolutely describes my life lately. Life can be hard.  Being an oilfield wife is hard. As a mom, I feel it’s my responsibility to be the glue of the […]

Is the oilfield life worth it?

Over the last 13 years of being an oilfield wife, when the going has gotten rough, I’ll stop and ask myself if this lifestyle is really worth it. It’s a life made up of sacrifices, hard work, and compromises. We all work so hard. Not just my Hot Oil Man up at the north slope […]

Oilfield Fathers

I know this is a “wives” website, but the other half of a wife is the husband, so I think it’s OK if I talk mostly about men just this once. All of us know how hard it is being an oilfield mom, but oilfield dads deserve a big pat on the back, too. We […]

How did I get here?

Do you ever stop and look around and think, “How on earth did I get here?” I am in my mid-thirties and living in Alaska! How did this happen!? I still feel like a 19-year-old just starting out in the world. (Well, minus the aches and pains and wrinkles.) Where has the time gone? Time […]

Don’t Resent Me For Not Needing You

One of the biggest issues in oilfield marriages (or at least in mine) is the continual adapting. The back and forth between single parent/dual parent, single parent/dual parent. It’s a huge cycle of  being independent, then back to co-dependent, back to independent, back to co-dependent… It’s hard for both parents to know their positions when […]

When My Oil Man is Away

The oilfield life is a unique way of life. We sacrifice family time – to get more family time. Our men work away from home for weeks or months at a time, so that they can have weeks and months at home. The way of life that we have chosen comes with its own particular […]

What I Hate About Being an Oilfield Wife

Being an Oilfield Wife is a Love/Hate relationship. There’s certain aspects that I love, and there’s also parts I hate. There’s also things I love to hate, and things I hate to love……or something like that. Anyway, here’s a list of a few of the things I HATE about being an Oilfield Wife: 1. Pity […]