Dear 2016

Dear 2016, Might I ask you a favor?  Well, I’m going to go ahead and ask for it anyway whether you like it or not.  It is actually going to be several favors, some more important than others. Can we have some stability in oil and gas right now?  I would love for oil prices […]

Puzzle Pieces

You know how each family member has their “place” so to say? Each one carries their own set of values, skills, ideals, and purpose? I’m not referring to the kind of “place” like “women in the kitchen” type thing, heavens no, not at all. Simply the kind of place where someone simply fits. We had […]

Love and Christmas

I have always loved Christmas.  As I child, I would start waking my parents up at 3 AM to see if it was time to see what  Santa had brought.  They would finally give in about 4:30 or 5 AM.  Still to this day, the Christmas season makes me incredibly happy. As of this moment, […]

An Ungrateful Thanksgiving

I am having a hard time getting into the holiday spirit. I have so much to complain about that it’s hard to feel thankful. Which might be because we’re not actually having a Thanksgiving meal. It’s hard to get in the mood when there’s no turkey and pumpkin pie. Maybe it’s because I’m meeting with […]

That Time We *Almost* Got Divorced

It’s a time we don’t necessarily bring up at family gatherings, or giggle about when reminiscing about our past together (like that one time in an elevator in Vegas). Sure, we think about it, but we rarely ever talk about it. My heart literally shudders at the mere recollection of words spoken between us once […]

An Open Letter To My Husband’s Ex-Girlfriends

Dear Ex-Girlfriends of my Husband, Yes, this is awkward. You’re probably asking yourself, “Why in the world is she writing to me? What could she possibly have to say?” A lot, actually. Don’t worry! I’m not here to call you out, or say bad things. I’m not going to put you down, or judge you. […]

11 Facts about Oilfield Wives

1. Oilfield wives are the most capable women you will ever meet. They know how to fix the sink, mow the lawn, dig out a splinter, change a flat, and a million and one other things. Not necessarily by choice, but because these catastrophes only happen when the oilfield men are gone and the women […]

Don’t Resent Me For Not Needing You

One of the biggest issues in oilfield marriages (or at least in mine) is the continual adapting. The back and forth between single parent/dual parent, single parent/dual parent. It’s a huge cycle of  being independent, then back to co-dependent, back to independent, back to co-dependent… It’s hard for both parents to know their positions when […]

Your Wives Are Equals

When I wrote the post titled “I Quit” I expected those who commented on it to actually read it first. It became clear to me fairly quickly that not all who had something to say about it did. Fact #1: No, I did not leave my husband because of his job. Fact #2: No, I […]

You Should Have Known

You should’ve known what you were getting into when you married an oilfield man.  This seems to be a popular sentiment with oilfield wives.  It is a response to other women’s cries of difficulty and frustration at times over this lifestyle.  In fact, it has become so popular of a comment that both Ashley and […]