Don’t Resent Me For Not Needing You

One of the biggest issues in oilfield marriages (or at least in mine) is the continual adapting. The back and forth between single parent/dual parent, single parent/dual parent. It’s a huge cycle of  being independent, then back to co-dependent, back to independent, back to co-dependent… It’s hard for both parents to know their positions when […]

You Should Have Known

You should’ve known what you were getting into when you married an oilfield man.  This seems to be a popular sentiment with oilfield wives.  It is a response to other women’s cries of difficulty and frustration at times over this lifestyle.  In fact, it has become so popular of a comment that both Ashley and […]

I think I’m losing my mind

I don’t know which straw actually broke the camel’s back, but it’s finally happened. I have lost my mind. It’s gone. I don’t know if it’s from the pressures of being an Oilfield wife, or a home-school mom, or just being in my mid-thirties that caused it. I’ve passed forgetful, I’m beyond scatterbrained, I’ve reached […]

I Didn’t Know

If you’ve heard it once, you’ve heard it a thousand times: “You knew what you were getting yourself into when your husband went into the oilfield”. Actually, no, I didn’t know. I knew the basics. I knew he’d be working long, hard hours outdoors. I knew the job might move him here and there a […]

Oilfield Life in 2015

The last couple of hitches had been rough for me.  I was hesitant to share it because there are so many oilfield families looking for work.  I knew that people would think that I should be grateful my husband has a job.  I am grateful, but that doesn’t mean that my life is perfect.  Being […]

The Candid Oilfield Wife (Part 1): The Departure

Over the past 4 years of my Oilfield Wife status several people have approached me and asked me how I deal with my husband being home and away for 14 days at a time. Essentially, he’s away for 6 months, or half a year, or…however you choose to look at it. Anyway, there are certain […]

Don’t Pet the Polar Bears

I don’t know much about Alaska.  Ok, that’s an understatement.  I know people go there to hunt, fish and take cruises where you see whales and shit.  I know the Aurora Borealis happens there, that I want to see it, but have no idea what time of year it happens (FYI, winter). The “reality show” […]

Daddy’s at Work

Today is June 4th, and Hubby has been gone for 4 days of our very first hitch of 7 weeks and already I’m questioning the sanity of this decision.  Not like we had an abundance of options. OFM’s boss could only scrape together an average of 10 hours a week for him and despite the […]

Is there life after the Oil Field?

My Hot Oil Man and I have been talking a lot about the future lately. We like to plan…..well, I like to plan and he humors me. I have learned that things don’t usually go as planned, if they did I wouldn’t be living in Alaska homeschooling right now. However, both of those life experiences […]

Tips For A More “HOMEY” Rig

My husband works a two on two off hitch, so in theory he spends just as much time in his trailer at work as he does at our own home. My oilfield man (OFM) cooks, sleeps, works on his computer, and sometimes on occasion even catches a football game all from a lovely little tin […]