An Ungrateful Thanksgiving

I am having a hard time getting into the holiday spirit. I have so much to complain about that it’s hard to feel thankful. Which might be because we’re not actually having a Thanksgiving meal. It’s hard to get in the mood when there’s no turkey and pumpkin pie. Maybe it’s because I’m meeting with […]

Keeping Things Sexy, Even When We’re Apart

I’m standing in front of the mirror topless trying to take a sexy picture to send to my husband.  I say “trying” because I’m taking a multitude of pictures and not happy with any of them.  As I’m scrolling through photos I see something I have never noticed before.  When on earth did my breasts […]

I’m Not Ready for Him to Come Home Yet

Sometimes I’m not ready for my Hot Oil Man husband to come home. It’s not that I don’t miss him – because I do. I miss him every second that he’s gone. And it’s not that I don’t like having him here – because I love having him home. But sometimes I just don’t feel […]

Rediscovering Him

I know I’m not the only wife who has felt like she has a stranger in her bed. After weeks of being away from one another, while it’s amazingly nice, there is an odd sense of awkwardness in the air. Ok, I also admit that it’s also incredibly hot (what have I got to hide?). […]

4 Truths About an Oilfield Marriage

Want to put your marriage to the test?  Have your husband join the oilfield.  Nothing puts pressure on a relationship like weeks apart with long hours and little sleep.  It can be a constant balance between one extreme to the other.  Admittedly, sometimes I am awesome at all of this and sometimes I just plain […]

Don’t Touch My Stuff!

Let’s take a minute or two to talk about something that we all [kind of/sort of] dread but don’t talk about: The Transition Home. I know. I know. We never ever think about our oilfield men coming home in a negative way. After all, we wait (and wait, and wait, and wait) for the time […]

The Candid Oilfield Wife (Part 1): The Departure

Over the past 4 years of my Oilfield Wife status several people have approached me and asked me how I deal with my husband being home and away for 14 days at a time. Essentially, he’s away for 6 months, or half a year, or…however you choose to look at it. Anyway, there are certain […]

He’s Gone

It was early March 2011. I don’t remember the exact date, as I wanted nothing more than to erase it from my mind forever. It was the day I tried so hard to stop. My husband was about to board an airplane that would take him south on an adventure with many unknowns. My heart […]

Don’t Pet the Polar Bears

I don’t know much about Alaska.  Ok, that’s an understatement.  I know people go there to hunt, fish and take cruises where you see whales and shit.  I know the Aurora Borealis happens there, that I want to see it, but have no idea what time of year it happens (FYI, winter). The “reality show” […]

Come Back to Me

If you had the opportunity to speak with my husband about the beginning of our oilfield adventure, almost 4 years ago, he’d tell you it was hell. Not because of the job, the traveling, the distance, the learning, and so on. It was because of me. He will be the first to tell you that […]