25 Things Oilfield Wives [Never Thought They’d] Say

There are articles floating all around the internet focusing on topics like “15 Things Moms of Boys Say”, or “10 Things Moms of Girls Want You To Know.” Enter the oilfield wives. Have you ever said something to your oilfield man and then thought to yourself “…did I really just say that?!” Yes, yes you […]

I’m Not Ready for Him to Come Home Yet

Sometimes I’m not ready for my Hot Oil Man husband to come home. It’s not that I don’t miss him – because I do. I miss him every second that he’s gone. And it’s not that I don’t like having him here – because I love having him home. But sometimes I just don’t feel […]

They Will Never Understand

“I spoke to Oilman yesterday morning,” the friend said, “he sounded really tired.”  The friend was genuinely surprised that he sounded exhausted and beat down.  I might have given that person an exaggerated eye roll. I feel like a parent who has told their child something A MILLION TIMES ALREADY!  I get exasperated when people […]

What if He Falls in Love?

This question is, unfortunately, asked frequently. Women wondering if their hardworking man is cheating, ready to leave, or has fallen in love with someone else. Each situation different, but eerily similar, and each heartbreaking to read. Each story starts by noticing a change in him. He’s short on the phone and calling less often. He […]

Our New Normal

The truth hit me while in the middle of the cereal aisle at the grocery store.  I’m not sure why the realization that my husband was coming home for an unknown period of time hit me there, but it did.  We’ve been affected by the low oil prices just like many other oilfield families out […]

The Non-Desperate Housewife

Are there really desperate housewives out there? Women that are not content with their lives, marriages, homes, husbands, relationships, etc? Being a homemaker/stay-at-home-mom/housewife is not a glamorous life, but it can still be both fun and fulfilling. Is glamour really THAT appealing? I’m happy with my comfortable, predictable life. Maybe I’m the minority, but I am […]

The Other Side of the Oilfield

It has been just over two months since my husband left the oilfield to take a job with the railroad. It seems much longer than that. Much longer. Have our lives really changed that much in 9 short weeks?! It seems so long ago. He’s kept in touch with his crew. We’ve worried about them, […]

Dear Oilfield…

Dear Oilfield, A lot of people hate you.  You leave a bad taste in the mouth of the general public.  To your employees you can be unpredictable – there’s always your ups and downs to deal with. Booms followed by slow-downs. You bring a sense of uncertainty.  Environmentalists hate you in general and would like […]

The Dreaded “Work-Over”

I hate hate, hate, hate when my husband has to work an extra week. He’s staying longer this hitch, so his usual two weeks away at the North Slope will actually be three. The dreaded “work-over”.  And that also means he’ll only get one week at home instead of two. Bad followed by worse!  Having […]

An Oilfield Wife’s Breaking Point

I’m not sure where my breaking point is, but I might have already passed it. You know that saying, “When it rains, it pours?” Well that absolutely describes my life lately. Life can be hard.  Being an oilfield wife is hard. As a mom, I feel it’s my responsibility to be the glue of the […]