Don’t Resent Me For Not Needing You

One of the biggest issues in oilfield marriages (or at least in mine) is the continual adapting. The back and forth between single parent/dual parent, single parent/dual parent. It’s a huge cycle of  being independent, then back to co-dependent, back to independent, back to co-dependent… It’s hard for both parents to know their positions when […]

How to Love an Oilfield Wife

My Oilfield Man and I just celebrated our 5-year wedding anniversary! Five years! That seems so crazy to me! Didn’t we just get engaged last week? What a crazy 5 years it has been, indeed! It’s got me all in love and stuff. He came home on our actual anniversary and we’ve been busy making […]

Cooking for the Masses

Cooking and baking happens to be one of my favorite hobbies. Sure, it isn’t the best hobby for my waistline, but it has a way of calming me. I always try to pass my dishes along to neighbors, friends, or family members, but they always have something I seem to lack: self-control. So, I end […]

Having Him Home

What would it look like if Oilman was home more or all the time?  We still have no idea what will happen in the next few months.  He could get laid off, have a schedule change, or just keep working as-is (doubtful there).  The possibilities in front of us have made me wonder what having […]

Decisions, Decisions, Decisions

As an adult there are many decisions in life.  Too many.  How do you know what’s right? As a kid everything is so black and white, but as an adult decision making can be SO HARD. Sometimes there is no “right” – or there’s more than one right and you have to try and decide […]

Don’t Touch My Stuff!

Let’s take a minute or two to talk about something that we all [kind of/sort of] dread but don’t talk about: The Transition Home. I know. I know. We never ever think about our oilfield men coming home in a negative way. After all, we wait (and wait, and wait, and wait) for the time […]

I Can’t Mom Today

Dear Children- Sorry boys, I know I’m a crappy person, but I can’t mom today.  I simply can’t do it. Maybe it’s the PMS, maybe it’s the phase of the moon, maybe it’s that we are only halfway through daddy’s hitch, but today I couldn’t get it together to be the mother you both need […]

I am an ungrateful turd.

I felt like an ungrateful little turd recently as I sat down to write a letter. We decided to sponsor a child in Gunchire, Ethiopia and her name is Fesesu Hailu.  Fesesu is 10 years old and this sweet girl has lost both of her parents.  Help One Now is the organization that facilitates and […]

Your Wives Are Equals

When I wrote the post titled “I Quit” I expected those who commented on it to actually read it first. It became clear to me fairly quickly that not all who had something to say about it did. Fact #1: No, I did not leave my husband because of his job. Fact #2: No, I […]

You Should Have Known

You should’ve known what you were getting into when you married an oilfield man.  This seems to be a popular sentiment with oilfield wives.  It is a response to other women’s cries of difficulty and frustration at times over this lifestyle.  In fact, it has become so popular of a comment that both Ashley and […]