Waiting For You

Dearest Husband, I know you wonder what I’m doing here while you’re away, because I wonder too. I wonder if you’re thinking about me. I wonder if you’re safe. I wonder if you miss me like I miss you. I think about how your day is going, and fantasize about what we would be doing […]

Our First “Real” Birthday Party

My oldest son is about to turn 6 and is in Kindergarten.  Until now, his birthday parties were as much about the adults as they were about him because we don’t throw a lot of parties and he didn’t have many friends.  This year will be a bit different because he wants to invite most […]

When My Oil Man is Away

The oilfield life is a unique way of life. We sacrifice family time – to get more family time. Our men work away from home for weeks or months at a time, so that they can have weeks and months at home. The way of life that we have chosen comes with its own particular […]

I Didn’t Know

If you’ve heard it once, you’ve heard it a thousand times: “You knew what you were getting yourself into when your husband went into the oilfield”. Actually, no, I didn’t know. I knew the basics. I knew he’d be working long, hard hours outdoors. I knew the job might move him here and there a […]

Part-Time Husband

The other day I was explaining my husband’s work schedule (4-6 weeks in Alaska, 2 weeks here) to someone and she said matter-of-factly, “Oh, so you have a part-time husband.” As I usually do, I didn’t really answer her and instead giggle a little and move the conversation forward.  I wish I could explain to […]

An open letter to those who work at nail salons

Dear Ladies and Gentlemen Who Work At Nail Salons: First off, I want to say thank you.  You massage my hands, arms, legs, and feet.  You make my nails look pretty.  Every time I look down at my pretty nails, it makes me happy.   Thank you for all of the prettiness and happiness. I don’t […]

What I Hate About Being an Oilfield Wife

Being an Oilfield Wife is a Love/Hate relationship. There’s certain aspects that I love, and there’s also parts I hate. There’s also things I love to hate, and things I hate to love……or something like that. Anyway, here’s a list of a few of the things I HATE about being an Oilfield Wife: 1. Pity […]

I Quit

I quit being an Oilfield Wife today. As a matter of fact, I quit being an anything. I had finally had enough, threw my hands in the air, and admitted defeat. Today I stopped waiting for my husband’s presence to complete me and I found myself again. No more feeling lost when he isn’t around. […]

I Want a Best Friend

I want a best friend. A female one, not the male version I’m married to. I’ve had a few over the years. That person you talk to everyday, the one that you would say “what are we doing tonight?” to instead of “can we do lunch a week from Thursday?”  The kind of friend you […]

Oilfield Life in 2015

The last couple of hitches had been rough for me.  I was hesitant to share it because there are so many oilfield families looking for work.  I knew that people would think that I should be grateful my husband has a job.  I am grateful, but that doesn’t mean that my life is perfect.  Being […]