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An Ungrateful Thanksgiving

An Ungrateful Thanksgiving #realoilfieldwives

I am having a hard time getting into the holiday spirit. I have so much to complain about that it’s hard to feel thankful. Which might be because we’re not actually having a Thanksgiving meal. It’s hard to get in the mood when there’s no turkey and pumpkin pie. Maybe it’s because I’m meeting with […]

Pity Party

Pity PARTY! Join us! #realoilfieldwives

If you are wondering why I’m wearing pajama bottoms at 4:27 in the afternoon, it is because I’m hosting my own pity party.  You are invited to come and join in the sadness if you want.  I feel it is important to disclose you should tread lightly as my patience has worn thin and I’m […]

Defining Yourself

Defining Yourself #realoilfieldwives

“Hi! This is Ashley, Ryan’s wife.” “Good Morning! This is Ashley, Ani’s mom.” …I do this all the time: making phone calls, running into people at the grocery store I seldom see, introducing myself to strangers, making appointments, and so on. It never fails. Why do I feel the need to place a title with […]

Mom Standards


I am a horrible multi-tasker. Actually, I’m not horrible at it, I just hate it. I’d prefer to focus on one thing.   All women, all moms, and especially oilfield wives are multi-taskers. We have to be, we have no choice. At any given moment, I’m thinking about at LEAST 6 major issues, 22 medium […]

Keeping Things Sexy, Even When We’re Apart

Keeping Things Sexy, Even When We're Apart #realoilfieldwives

I’m standing in front of the mirror topless trying to take a sexy picture to send to my husband.  I say “trying” because I’m taking a multitude of pictures and not happy with any of them.  As I’m scrolling through photos I see something I have never noticed before.  When on earth did my breasts […]

That Time We *Almost* Got Divorced

That Time We *Almost* Got Divorced #realoilfieldwives

It’s a time we don’t necessarily bring up at family gatherings, or giggle about when reminiscing about our past together (like that one time in an elevator in Vegas). Sure, we think about it, but we rarely ever talk about it. My heart literally shudders at the mere recollection of words spoken between us once […]

Start Living Your Life!

Start Living Your Life – Advice From an Oilfield Wife #realoilfieldwives

As an oilfield family, we’ve had our shares of hard times but by the grace of God, we’ve made it through them all. There have been rough patches when things looked bleak…but we never gave up because one thing I strongly believe is – if you don’t like how things are, change them! Take control […]

Oilfield Worker Appreciation Day

12 Reasons Why Oilfield Workers Deserve Appreciation #OilfieldWorkerAppreciationDay #realoilfieldwives

I declare today, Oilfield Worker Appreciation Day.  Write this day down.  It’s a new thing and we are going to start it.  #OilfieldWorkerAppreciation is happening on this very day folks. Have you ever looked to see all the “special” days we have in the US?  We celebrate all kinds of important things in this beautiful […]

Raising Kids in the Oilfield

Raising Kids in the Oilfield #realoilfieldwives #parenting #oilfield

There’s a classic rock song that I can’t listen to without tearing up.  Cat’s in the Cradle is one of my all-time favorites.  It’s folksy and nostalgic and one of the best songs ever. I’ve always liked it, but never truly understood it until I became a parent.  Now I totally “get it”.  It puts to music […]

It Isn’t Fun Anymore

It Isn't Fun Anymore #realoilfieldwives #infertility #TTC

“Trying is the fun part!!” she said smiling as she tried to find the right words to say. Truth is, there are no right words to say sometimes. I smiled back, “yeah,” I muttered, and then I walked away. Today marks the start of cycle 16; sixteen long, heart-wrenching months of trying for baby no.2. […]

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