Snail Mail: Send A Little Love


The summer before my sophomore year of high school, my family and I moved from northern New Jersey, to Indiana. Even though I grew up moving a lot, this was the first move that was really hard on me. I was growing deep roots in the Garden State, and I was quite certain that I would absolutely hate Indiana. I didn’t, but I still missed my Jersey friends terribly. Thankfully, being pen pals was still cool in 2000, and for the couple of years I lived in Indiana, I had gads of pen pals. There are probably a few hundred letters in the boxes that hold that cherished correspondence.

As the years went by, I lost touch with friends I was, at one point, sure I couldn’t live without. Or, we caught up on AIM (Remember AIM?), or via email. But to this day, a select few friends still send me cards and letters. From New Jersey, from Texas, from Pennsylvania and Virginia. Even from the United Arab Emirates, Thailand, and the Netherlands. I look forward to these letters now as much as I did when I was 14. Especially now, with a mailbox that’s only contents are bills or junk, most days.

The funny thing is, I’m actually a pretty terrible pen pal. Writing real letters is always on my to-do list, but it never seems to make the final cut, at the end of the day. I’d like to change that, and I’d like to encourage you to do the same!

When my husband was working in Alaska, I was able to send cards/letters/packages to a PO Box there. Going to Alaska, the mail was almost never timely, but it sure meant something.

I thought it would be fun to challenge the Real Oilfield Wives to dig out your pretty stationery (you can even find cute paper goods in the $1 bins at Target), a good pen, and write a few letters. Write to your oilfield man, and — if you’re able — send it to him while he’s away. Nowhere to send it? Stash it in his bag, before he leaves for work. I guarantee you it’ll make his day. Mail a small package to a friend you haven’t seen since you started following the rigs. Send a letter to a fellow oilfield wife who’s made a difference to you. Handwritten letters are so much more than a piece of paper … and certainly more than a quick email or Facebook message. I’m willing to bet you’ll be sending smiles, along with that 46 cents of postage.

Who will you write to? Share in the comments below, or send me a tweet!

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About Katie

Katie lives in the suburbs of Denver, Colorado, where she raises her sweet daughter, Maile, who just turned two! Katie has been married to the love of her life for going on 6 years; every one of those years as a roughneck wife. The family also includes two spaniels, a very persnickety old cat, and two aquatic frogs. Katie spends most of her time reading books with her little one, going down the slide at the park 10,000 times, painting and playing pretend, and dreaming of growing all her own food. You can also find her at her family lifestyle blog, See You There.


  1. Lauren Cuoco says:

    Oh friend, you know how much I love this post. I still keep a shoebox full of your letters from those early Indiana days, and I keep promising myself that I’ll collage them! I’d love to get them bound in a book and make two copies for us. In the meantime, I’ll follow your cue and write a letter — since I just moved, it’s only right that you receive something with my new return address. 🙂

  2. This is so sweet!!! My man is constantly on the move with his company…so the idea of putting it in his bag before he leaves is soo romantic! Hes actually on his way home and will be leaving in 2 days 🙂 on my way to find some fancy parchment ..THANK YOU!!!!

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